I like to think, and oh, i believe that I am in a much better state of mind and composure than I was before, when it comes to the issue of anger and its management.
A couple of years ago, you could call me an angry bird, and maybe you will be right. I did not know how well to express myself, and coupled with the fact that I am not the kind who talked much, I had some piled-up anger. I know people who see me laugh and go, "I don't know you used to laugh," "you should smile often. You have a beautiful smile," "this is the first time that I've ever seen you smile." And it might interest you to know that some of these people may already have known me for long years.
Sometimes, too, it's a misconception. My siblings would sometimes say that I'm always angry while I am nothing near that emotion. I just mostly wear a straight face, plus I can't be shining my teeth for no reason that warrants it.
It doesn't mean i dont feel that build-up of anger that makes me filled with rage and makes it cloud my sense of reasoning cause I do.
It's just that I've got a good grip on managing my anger. I'm not someone who gets angry much, but when I do, I have this thing where I clench my teeth together, and that keeps me from making an outburst.
I have come to realize that in moments of anger, it's best to hold oneself and not say anything until one doesn't feel the burning emotions anymore. It's only after that that it's appropriate to have a conversation, air your mind, and just trash things.
Asides, the above stated way, I also like to walk off from that scene. Staying there for longer could get me on edge(maybe), which isn't what I would want. I just walk away and go somewhere calm and cool off or take a walk. Or maybe I just drink water. This seems bizarre, but it works for me just as swallowing my saliva does. I keep taking sips from my water, and it feels like every time I feel the bile and outburst moving up my throat and threatening to let loose, when I drink some water, it pushes it back down It's funny, and I don't know how that has worked for me, but it does. I guess it's mental conditioning that has helped. It's the same way that taking a bath or just doing some cleaning helps.
There's also something i started to do when i was a kid that this prompt opened my eyes to, and that is taking a pen and pad and drawing boxes. Im terrible at drawing so you can be sure that it's not anything compex. I draw a box and trace the insides(even writing numbers inside) and then i draw another and another and another until i can't feel any emotions relating to anger and my mind is clear and i cant recall why i was even angry in the first place.
It's just these for me. Depending on the time and place, one of the above always works for me. Anger is rabid, and we must learn to either manage it to the minimal or nip it in the bud.
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