Calming the storm within: Anger Management-Hive-reachout weekly prompt

in Hive Reachout6 days ago

Years ago, I'd throw my younger brother's clothes in the gutter as a way to get back at him. Yes I was angry, but I couldn't fight , that was the only way to vent my anger, and if it was anyone older than me, I stayed off talking to them or eating whatever they provided until my mood was back to normal. I rarely get angry, but whenever I do, I make the person an enemy for a few minutes until he is ready to make amends. But then I noticed I got hurt the more whenever I vent those angers, and my major challenge was getting to talk to them again- which often requires that you talk to me first, else we'll remain quiet forever.

This kind of anger only ran in my blood. I don't know who I got that trait from, the only exceptional trait was, it takes a lot of wrongs to make me angry, but when I do, unfortunately, I do wrong things except if you have to apologize before I start. It probably was fun at first because people became afraid to make me angry, until my grandma spoke something awful about this habit of mine and I had to have a rethink. First, people are always surprised to see my reaction, they never believed this guy with a gentle look can get this angry. Secondly, I find myself regretting all I've done or said in the process, and lastly, I wanted a better way to manage this anger.

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I find it funny when people say they let go after venting their anger. Contrary to this, I believed there was a better way to manage anger than shading them on things or the person who caused the rage and I did find a better way.

Forbearance

The first lesson I understood in my quest on how to manage anger was to have the belief that humans aren't perfect and that's what makes us humans . This belief changed everything about how I perceive offense. So I learned to smile more whenever someone offends me and then I let go. This trick had worked wonders over the years. The smile allowed me to have space to think, and then stay calm. People who knew me a few days after I learned this trick believed that I never get angry and that I smile more, they never understood smiling was a means to forgive people's wrong.

Walk away

Walking away sometimes looks like an act of fear or weakness, but to people like me, walking away is strength. The more I stay under an atmosphere that promotes offense, the harder It becomes for me to forbear, so I walk away. Walking away is strength, it's a healing method for a wounded heart. So whenever you feel like reacting to offense, just walk away or whenever you're angry, walk away. One is able to think straight when he's isolated.

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Walking away is magical when it comes to quenching anger. The more you stay in the scene, the more you get provoked, so it's better to go away

That's true. It's often the best option when dealing with anger

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