Anger is inherent in every human. It is a natural feeling that is triggered by threats, failure, disappointment, disagreement, and other negative situations.
The word "Anger" is short, having just five letters, yet it is one of the most dangerous tools in the world.
An angry person in action is no different from a mad person. During the moment of anger, one can be moved to do unimaginable things.
The force is great and can cause damages that can not be undone. This is why it is mostly advised that we should not take decisions when we are angry.
Most of the terrible crimes that involve brutality, most of the home violence we hear about today, and most of the murder cases are traceable to anger.
Funny enough, each of us has a measure of this tool. Having it is not the problem. In fact, getting angry is not wrong and it's inevitable.
But our response to that force that boils within, nudging us to take action is what matters. The good news is anger is not a death sentence, it can be managed with proper training.
Anger is like every other trait, the more you work on it, the more you gain power over it. The more we suppress it the more it becomes weak, and the more we allow it to control us, the more it grows and turns us into beasts.
I have expressed angry moments thousands of times, I have done a lot of crazy things out of anger, and I have made terrible decisions that I still regret some to date out of anger.
The experience is not a good one, but I am sometimes grateful because it's because of the pain I got from my actions that I came up with means to subdue my anger.
I will be honest, there is no 100% dependent way to control anger, sometimes you will still lose it no matter how you try. But don't always let it win.
Below are a few ways I manage my temper:
1 . Keep mute and walk away: anger is like fire, it spreads when more fuel is added to it but when it doesn't have what to keep it burning, it quenches.
Whenever I am having an argument with anyone and I notice that it is beginning to irritate me, I stop talking and allow the person to continue and if he/she persists in annoying me, I walk away.
Sometimes at home when my parents begin to scold me or say things I don't like, I don't respond. If I have the courage to listen to them, I stay in silence and If I don't, I walk away to my room and shut the door.
Everyone in my home knows me with that. Whenever I am angry I don't talk, I go straight to my room or take a walk. There is power in calmness and the easiest way to achieve it is through silence. Anger is a turbulence within, if you are able to remain calm and put yourself together it will die off.
2 . Eat and sleep: prior to this time, whenever I am angry I don't eat food. I just push everything away and starve myself until I am calm.
I did it one time and hunger almost killed me, it was then I learned my lessons. Nowadays food also helps me cool down, when I am angry, I force myself to eat, sometimes in the process, I cool off. The next thing I do instead of going out is take some time to sleep so that I can put myself together.
3 . Trigger the consciousness that no one is perfect: this helps me so much. Whenever I am offended and forced to retaliate, I walk away and focus on the fact that the person who offended me is human and he/she did that out of their imperfections, they are good people on a normal day.
4 . Remember that anger always brings regret in the end: I know how many times I have gotten myself into trouble for allowing my anger to control me. I have also heard of people who angrily killed their child or spouse out of anger.
I never can tell what my actions can give birth to, but since I can escape it now that it's just a feeling in my heart, it's best I let it slide. Pondering on this thing brings me back to sense. But this only works, when I have gone far from the source of the anger.
There are many other ways but it's not all about pilling up strategies, it's about putting the few you know into action consistently.
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