My neighbour has seven children and she is pregnant with the eight child, they are still struggling to earn a living. And instead of her to stop at that number at least for her health, you would often hear her saying " children are a blessing from God" and every child comes with a blessing. I am not against the fact that they are a blessings but keep reading to understand why I am against that opinion.
Children are gift from God, but be the blessings they need. Be financially, emotionally, phycologically, mentally, spiritually and physically prepared for them.
I read about a woman who lost her life because her husband didn't give a deposit of 500k for an emergency Cs since she on labour. He doesn't have the money.
This man was streaming live on Facebook to give the whole world update about this condition.
That's not even the right time for such, but let's not talk about that now.
At the end of the day the woman lost her life but the and the doctors demanded for the money to save the baby, well good Nigerians helped out.
But it was already late for the woman.
The last time I said a woman shouldn’t get pregnant if she or her partner aren’t financially ready, some of my neighbours,criticized me.
They said, “Children are a blessing from God.”
And I agree,children are a beautiful blessing. But it’s important we talk about this again.
From the moment a woman gets pregnant until the child becomes an adult, there are many financial responsibilities.
It’s not about discouraging parenthood,it’s about making sure you’re stable and ready before bringing a child into the world.
This is not an attack on love, marriage, or family. It’s a reminder to be prepared.
Before you decide to have a child, take a moment and ask yourself:
Do we have a steady income?
Do we have some savings in case of emergencies?
Can we cover hospital bills during pregnancy and delivery?
Do we have people who can support us if things get tough?
Our culture often says, “Children come with their own blessings.” But the truth is,we must be the blessing they need first.
Even our creator ( God) gave our first parent a beautiful garden for them to cultivate before he talked about multiplying the world. Adam and Eve needed to work hard in the field .
Let’s not wait for pain or loss to teach us to prepare. May the parents be comforted because this is a big lost to them. And may her story inspire us to be wiser, to plan better, and to love not only with our hearts,but with our minds too.
And if you aren't ready financially don't bother giving birth don't let the society pressure you into " born all your children and rest" nothing like that in the real world oh let's be guided.
For real! If you're not ready financially, emotionally, and in other ways to take care of a child, get ready first.
Children become a blessing when are able to nurture them well as parents first.
That's it oh, be ready first.
Nigeria is hard.
Omo
You just nailed it with this.
When it comes to this particular statement.
I find it so annoying because you will see someone struggling and knows very well he/she can't be able to feed someone else.
Would go and bring in an innocent soul to the world to suffer all in the name of children are God's gift.
My dear it's becoming too much, at the end of the day the children will be hucking things around.
Seriously.
It's really not cool.
It is even more annoying when someone who grew up in such a background will still repeat such for her children.
Not wanting to effect a change.
My dear, I wish some persons will do better.
Seriously
You received an upvote ecency
Thanks Ecency for the vote.
When I saw that post on Facebook, I cried and asked why they didn't prepare from the first month till 9months of the pregnancy journey.
What baffles me most is this type of statement usually comes from those who have no job, no work, no business, or whatever they are doing but children are all over🤔
It is well!
The story went viral.
Seriously, I concurred with your last paragraph