FRIENDSHIPS CAN BE GOOD OR BAD

in Hive Reachout10 days ago

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I am glad that I have experienced and still experiencing the gift of friendship, I mean what is life if in one way or the other, you live life void of friends and in isolation. I know that in our contemporary world it has become difficult to trust even our families talk more of a stranger friend, but one thing I have come to realize is that having friends cannot be avoided, it is now left for you as an individual to discipline yourself and allow for space sometimes in the relationship. Different kinds of friendship exist, we have those that are in to take and take, some are givers, some are helpers etc.

Often times, there are some few lonely moments that would warrant unnecessary thoughts like, maybe you don't really have friends or nobody like. But certain moments can determine that especially when you are down or facing something tragic. I remember the time I was very sick and I was just managing it by myself hoping I would get better in no time. But it got worse to the point that I started having symptoms of weakness, dizziness and so on. This faithful Saturday morning, my friends who had gone for morning mass stopped by my place because they noticed I did not come for the mass.

This was because after the mass, we would clean the church by sweeping, mopping and dusting. When they came by, they found out how weak I was and help me to the school clinic, after running some tests and seeing a doctor, they realized that I needed medical attention immediately and transferred me to the hospital. I was admitted and placed under several kinds of drips and medication. The first night of my stay in the hospital, my friend was there with me throughout, even when the nurses asked everyone to leave because visitors were not allowed to stay the night, he slept at the balcony with the heavy storm and cold night.

There were also times I was there for my friends who were sick, having issues with school work, broke etc. One time I remember almost writing a chapter 4 project for a friend who was stuck because deadline was approaching.

There are some friendship that I have regretted somehow because people tend to take you for granted. Although people may see it as a small amount of money but this guy called me urgently that he was stuck at a place in Lagos and had no transport fare to go home because he could not access his bank account, so I transferred 5k from the goodness of my heart. He promised that when he gets home he would sort it out, I had no problem because I knew him so well but Can you believe that since January after that transfer, I have not heard from him.

Even when it was 5 months later, I texted him to pay me back because he is well aware that I do not have a sustainable job. We'll, I see that he is always online on Facebook and even on telegram when he is posting stories of these Airdrops but he has refused to answer me. I texted once and I just left it because I was surprised at his inhumane behavior.

So, when some people are worth it, others just find the opportunity to get close to you, take from you and ghost you. But I will never forget those who have stood by me in difficult times.

This is a part of my entry for the #novemberinleo prompt as organized by the @leogrowth team with great initiative that members of Hive you can participate in this prompt and tackle them as you deem fit. In collaboration with the @hivereachout community.

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True friendships are actually very hard to come across this days and so it's just very good to keep them close whenever you meet any of them because they are the only ones that will be willing to be there for you at any point of your life when you need their assistance.

You are so right, thank you for your input

some people can be very funny at times,they make you make certain decisions, if you refuse to be of help henceforth,they wouldn't understand why,at the same time such experiences makes us distant from being too close with people....True and genuine ones rare.