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Confidence and Self-Esteem
In this context, I would like to firstly channel the discussion of confidence and self-esteem towards the interview process, especially when hunting for a job. For any company—particularly the HR Manager (HRM)—during an oral interview to recruit employees, one of the criteria they use in scoring applicants is the level of self-confidence demonstrated when answering questions or presenting themselves.
I don't know if it's just me, but I believe there comes a time in life when a person no longer succumbs to fidgeting or battling with confidence and self-esteem. I’ve reached that stage where I no longer give a damn about what used to frighten me or make me shake or doubt myself. At this stage, two outcomes are possible in a man’s life: either failure or success. Neither of these outcomes can define or end a man’s life if he handles them well, especially failure. So why the low self-esteem? Why the shaking? Why the doubt?
The last interview I attended for a job was a highly sophisticated one, yet I didn’t feel pressured like others. My self-confidence was unwavering. I didn’t resort to memorizing answers and turning them into a sort of chant just to avoid forgetting. No. I went there knowing full well that my interviewers were humans like me. Despite their high profiles, I knew we could talk casually and even share a laugh.
I remember that particular day vividly. When I got in, I was asked to introduce myself. I responded by sharing the essential information they wanted in a casual tone, as though I were chatting with a friend. I wasn’t afraid, nor did I fidget.
The truth is, I’ve had the opportunity to conduct interviews myself many times. I know how it feels to sit on the judge’s panel, questioning and evaluating applicants. With that experience, I view interviewers and their seats as a position I have once occupied. They’re just normal human beings. Often, their demeanor is an act, designed to appear more imposing because they’re in the judge’s seat.
This same principle applies to a man’s life when he’s approaching a lady for friendship or a relationship. In the early stages of a man’s life, his confidence and self-esteem might be too low to approach a lady. He allows the "what ifs" to dominate his mind. But as he matures, his confidence grows, reaching a stage where he no longer entertains those doubts when approaching a woman. At this stage of maturity, he does it naturally, without overthinking the outcome.
You see, the process of building confidence and overcoming low self-esteem happens in stages. It accelerates depending on the experiences a person goes through.
Years ago, I used to avoid microphones—I was terrified of speaking or leading prayers in public. But with time and practice, my self-confidence grew and matured. Now, I can do that freely without the slightest fear.
Thank you for reading.
*This is my response to Hive-reachout prompt.
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I don't think it's everyone that gets to that stage of no self doubt, some people no matter how old they are still have that fear and lack of self esteem.
I remember I always avoided speaking in crowd, that's how I lost a leadership position when I was in primary school.
Yeahhh, it's not just the age but with experience and exposure. If a man is growing and not opportuned to see and experience things, his life is going to be like that always.
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I guess you are right cause I also don't allow anything to fizzle me. It was not so before but overtime and with the level of experience and exposure, I have come to attain a high level of confidence that some persons mistake as pride.
I think there's an age a person will get to coupled with some tough experiences that would push away timidity from their mind
Yeah, the experience play a bigger role in it.
There are people at 40 that still fizzle at such show.
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My dear that job interview no be here oh. It makes one to lose self confidence completely.
Thanks for sharing
Yeahh.
And those interviewers are very good in making it scary and tense😂.
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