I find it hard to agree with some statements or even beliefs made by certain people, and honestly, the fact that we all have our differences make interactions interesting. I have been made to understand and yes, I quite agree that women are fragile(soft) and they cry a lot because they are very emotionally weak when it comes to handling issues of life. People believe it's okay for women to cry because of the kind of being they are.
But when it comes to men, they don't cry. Like, how? Aren’t they humans with feelings too? Sometimes, I find it so funny when I hear someone saying, "Come on, be a man for your mother/sister/fiancée etc." They don't want to see them crying because they are seen as weaklings if they do. They are supposed to be stronger than women.
But that's totally wrong, and I disagree with that completely because they also need it. Come on, crying doesn't make one a weakling, right? In fact, I have once written it here that crying is therapeutic. Crying is good, and it's healthy. Let out those cries and be relieved. It's as good as that.
Crying isn’t gendered; it’s human. We all feel pain, and the body has its own way of processing what the heart carries.
"Men do not cry" has been a belief that has existed for years. And then, I used to believe such a notion too but not anymore. The day I saw my dad cry when he lost his wife, my own mother, I saw real love in his eyes. I saw the feeling of loneliness, and I knew he wouldn't be able to cope without her. He had been so close to her that they did things together, but leaving him alone with us was overwhelming for him. He cried because he wouldn't see her anymore.
I believe when a man cries, it is okay because one thing about men is that they don't show it when something is wrong. They just keep pressing further. They keep pushing until they hit the wall and they don't seem to move forward.
In fact, they are very strong, and when they cry, it doesn't mean they aren't man enough. It just means they have gotten to that stage where all they need is to let out those tears just to relieve themselves. Some of them use the tears to restrategize because after the crying comes a new way to solve a problem.
There was a time when my friends and I had this discussion. It was about a lady in our compound who had always mistreated this guy and in turn, he loved her so much, and we could see it, too. It got to a point where people thought the lady had charmed him to always be available every minute. Never was there a day this lady stressed herself over something because the guy was always there to help and support. But the day the lady told him, coldly and without care, that she wasn’t interested in the relationship, it broke the guy down and he cried.
We could see true love, but this lady wasn't seeing it, as she was already onto another guy who had money.
One thing I believe is that when a man cries because of a lady, it's because of love especially when he had sacrificed and invested a lot in such a relationship. This is also common with a lady when she gets a breakup. But coming up with the statement that a guy is weak or a dummy for crying over a lady yet when it’s about the lady, they feel it's okay, and say “Yes, she loved him so much, that was why she was pained and cried,” what happens to the man? Isn’t he a human being, too?
When a man cries, it isn’t because he isn’t strong or not a man as claimed. Let him cry. It's okay. They are also strong, just like some women who would want to keep things secret and do it all alone.
Also, I would like to disagree with the statement that a man is a dummy or a weakling when he cries because it isn't so. It doesn't make them any less strong. They also need to express their emotions and feelings.
Society has long created invisible cages around masculinity, boxing men into silence. But vulnerability is not weakness, it's strength wearing no disguise. Let the man cry. Let him heal.
This post is in response to the prompt hosted by the Hive Reachout community which is titled Popular Statement You Don't Agree With. I will be inviting @mayor-001 @emerald24 and @oluwa-tosin to participate, too.
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Men do cry but they do it in the corner of their room away from others seeing them, if you see a man crying in public or where people are, just know that he is deeply hurt.
Exactly. But some people won't want to believe it is normal for them to do so even in public. They feel they are stronger to be able to help themselves but we all need to be helped, everyone no matter the gender.
That is what we men are facing, they see us as Superman who must bear all the pains alone and any signs of expressing ourselves through tears is seen as a sign of weakness, May God help us ... Thanks for this princess! you understand that men also need to be comforted, they go through pains too and showing it is not a weakness.
Yea, their cry isn’t weakness, they need it, too. Thank you, Burl for your comments ✌️
This is one thing that i also don't agree with. Even me personally i cry but then we don't just show emotions or make everyone that we are crying. Some of us are even soft that some girls sef.
That's very right. Men also cry but they don't actually show it and that make them stronger.
Yeah, you don't see men crying because our first instinct is to face the problem head-on and do something. Doesn't mean men cannot or shouldn't cry, and it's usually private.
Happens only once in the lifetime of a man and never again
Well, you are right. Their crying is usually done in private and it’s rare, too because they are always seen trying harder until there’s no way.
Well, you are right. Their crying is usually done in private and it’s rare, too because they are always seen trying harder until there’s no way.
I think I need to cry at this point. Chuckles. It's a wrong perception the society has created for us. But thank you for this enlightening post.
I picked something again though; "crying is therapeutic", huh.
Hahaha 😂 please don't bottle up especially when you need to release those tears; it's okay and also yes, crying is therapeutic. It heals
I will let them flow when the need be 😅.
And all these kdrama boys will be crying upadan in all their series I've seen, what has love not done 😂
It's very okay for men to cry and I want the men to understand that, no need pushing too hard on themselves. Cry small, face the problem head on again.
Crying is even a form medication 😌
Leave those soft guys in the Korean movies oo 😂
Love is actually strong.
Exactly, they don't need to push themselves too hard. And yes, crying is a form of medication.
I hate the saying so much. It aches my heart to see some men die inside but never show their emotions.
Men should be tough. But if they feel like crying, for example, at their parent's funeral, we shouldn't judge.
Yes, we shouldn't judge any man who decides to cry because it is needed.
Society and their weird systems especially with gender inequality.
Men are humans and they feel as well. So it is okay for them to cry.
Crying even helps to relieve the hurt and the pains felt by the heart and it also cleanses the eyes too.
Exactly. I'm glad you understand the benefits of crying. It's good but society will always come up with different notions which in reality doesn't make sense.
Yeah but it's up to us to change the notions gradually.
To be honest, men are one crying with reckless abandon. Tpain regime Is bending their ego 😁😁😁
Yes I don't support that men don't cry at all because they are also human being and also need a shoulder to lean on when they are worried or emotional traumatized
Exactly 👍 they do.
Thank you for your comment.
The saying that men don't cry, is what is killing some of them emotionally. If they cry out their pain, it will help them to stay emotionally strong.
Crying does not make anyone weak, but it shows have that thing has really affected you
You are absolutely right. Crying is good and one shouldn't feel bad for doing that, especially the male gender.
And the same thing with the population assertion that anyone that doesn't cry during a trauma or tragic events, or a child that is been flogged/punished that doesn't cry is a witch or doesn't feel pain.
Exactly. A lot of assertions and I mostly don't agree with many of them.
Men have a strong mentality, and it's rare to see a man cry. But it doesn't mean they can't cry. Their crying means it made a significant impact on their mind, and it's hard to bear for them. I think it's not so easy for them to cry. I wish I could cry easily, but tears don't come to my eyes.
Yes, there are some who don't cry easily but when they do, it's okay and normal, but people shouldn't see them as weak ones.
What I believe is that when a woman is emotionally down at that moment, a Man must not be down too; rather, he must stay strong to console and encourage the woman.
I also don't believe the assertion that a man crying is a sign of weakness.
It all depends on how strong a man is and how he can control his emotions.
You are right there. It's not a sign of weakness. And yes, we can't have both people crying at the same time, someone must console the other but when it comes to privately, if they need to cry, they should. They aren't weak because of that.
I agree with you, men should be allowed to express emotions without being judged as weak. Crying is a natural response to pain, mean aren't superman or superhuman.
Thanks for sharing.
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I'm glad you understood my point here. Thank you for reading.
Very much welcome.
No gender is beyond emotions