In the world of lifestyles and relationship where there are always dynamic changes in regards to the human heart and human nature, the concept of loyalty and trust tends to seem like a rare and far fetched idea making one to ask the question "Should I Double Date" because when you start having doubts about the feelings of your lover with whom your in a relationship with on whether he or she loves you the same way you do, then the idea of 'Double Dating' gradually starts creeping in and taking a foot stand in your love life thereby creating the room for dishonestly and lies to grow and manifest to it's full potential.
Double dating being a strong short lived desire or obsession or passion for another person even though you are in a relationship should not be entertained because that desire which sometimes arises as a result of lust, financial benefits or fun as some people might call it will destroy that loyalty and trust that your partner/ lover has for you which will lead to heartbreak and pain for both of them or for the one been cheated on.
Looking back to the days of our father's and fore father's you will be able to differentiate that there is a vast difference between that time and the current modern age where there is a high rate of exposure that even the younger ones are the most affected making genuine love, loyalty, trust very scare in most relationships. Why did I say that, it's because I was also a victim of Double Dating. Let me bring you in on that, I had a girl whom I genuinely loved and cared about for a long time and we were cool and everything ok but I wasn't aware she had another guy untill one day when me and some of my homies were gisting and having fun then one of my guy spoke up saying there is this girl that is frustrating one of his guy and she is double dating at the same time.
So when we decided to inquire about the girl, that's when I found out that same girl we were talking about was my girl whom I had believed was cool all this while and when I tried to question her regarding the guy she flatly denied it, untill a day came when I caught her with that same guy and she couldn't explain herself when I asked her why, only to later discover that she's into the guy because of his ride, money and his father's status but he wasn't the only one she was cheating on but also 2 more guys aside from me and him.
The reason I brought my story up is to you a glimpse of reality of which most of you are aware of already and some of you have experienced it whereas some of you haven't.
The mindset of double dating should be a repulsive idea to those in relationship and those planning to enter one because a relationship build on lies, secrecy and deceit is heading towards heartbreak and pain which will
make both the man and the woman to carry the feeling of disloyalty or distrust into their new relationship or even avoid getting into another relationship because of the feeling.
The human heart is fragile and gullible making it very easy to be cheated on and deceived but still that same human heart falls in love and gives everything it has to the person it's devoted to with no restraint, so when a person falls victim of double dating after giving his or her all in a relationship, the result is always tragic and catastrophic in some cases.
Therefore I implore both genders to avoid the mindset of double dating and stick to their relationship ensuring trust, loyalty and sincere communication serving as the foundation of that relationship because transparency helps stabilise a relationship making the both of them understand and tolerate each other better and ensuring that the idea of double dating doesn't come in.
I trust and believe that my honest opinion on Double Dating will be able to help out and make others understand better about the reality of Double Dating.
I believe people who double date have not truly discovered themselves and their purpose yet, because anybody who is in, on this journey to success and great destiny should know that double dating is too much a load to carry. Thank you for sharing.
That is a fact and your words are true for anyone aiming to achieve success and progress. Thank you for that sir
I agree with this sincerely
It is too much a load to carry
One moment you're lying, another you're trying so hard to remember the lie you told 😂😂😂
Indeed double Dating lacks transparency and trust, because one is manipulating the other. Thank you for sharing this sir.
Indeed that's the case most times even though others will like to dabble in it for other reasons but that should not be the case.
Double dating being a strong short lived desire or obsession or passion for another person even though you are in a relationship should not be entertained because that desire which sometimes arises as a result of lust, financial benefits or fun as some people might call it will destroy that loyalty and trust that your partner/ lover has for you which will lead to heartbreak and pain for both of them or for the one been cheated on. I found this worth meditating upon. Thank you sir.
Thank you too and am glad and happy that you found this piece of write-up worth meditating upon
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I just but can only imagine how you felt, dating three people aside you, that was horrible for her to do.
Good you've healed and move on..
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Thank you for sharing this with us @samarijr0
Thank you also sir for the kind reminder and I will do well to engage alot
The issue of loyalty and trust in relationships has become increasingly complex, especially in today’s world where external influences and personal desires often cloud people’s judgment. Double dating is not just about cheating, it’s a breach of trust that deeply affects both partners, leaving scars that can carry over into future relationships.
Your personal experience really drives home the reality of how devastating betrayal can be. It’s painful when you give your all to someone, only to find out they were never fully committed to you in the first place. Unfortunately, as you pointed out, societal influences and materialistic desires have made genuine love seem scarce.
I completely agree that a relationship built on trust, loyalty, and open communication is the only way to create something lasting and meaningful.
More people need to understand that dishonesty and secrecy only lead to heartbreak. Your message serves as a strong reminder that faithfulness should be a priority in relationships.
Thanks for sharing this @samarijr0 ,it’s definitely an eye-opener! 👏💯
Thank you so much sir @ojochegbesammie for taking your time to read and go through the post thereby pointing out some key points and I also believe that the breach of trust as you said at the beginning already served as the core reason for a relationship to fail
Modern relationships have become so cheap, even for a ride back home or a free meal; people keep a date.
You bring back about grandparents. That time was different, god fearing and shame was a thing. Now no one cares about these.
You gave some good advice. I hope people will learn.
I also hope and trust that people will learn and understand better. Thank you @peacefulsoul