Hello my beautiful people of Hive, it's been awhile since I wrote something and dropped here for you all due to some reasons but am happy to be back. I woke up this morning feeling ecstatic, I don't know why exactly but I can say its due to the fact that I had a very sound, worry free and peaceful sleep last night which I haven't had for awhile now. When I stepped out to brush my teeth as usual I overheard my neighbour arguing with his wife over something, I don't know when it started but it sounded like they have been arguing for quite awhile , I did not mean to eavesdrop but it could not be helped because they were very loud, but I was able to figure out the reason for their argument so early like that.
So it turns out that they sent one of their child to go buy something and he came back crying seriously with what he was sent to get and told his mum that he got beaten up just like that by another kid without offending him and his mum just took off to go find the kid that beat up her child and when she found him she just starting beating him up without asking him what happened which lead to a confrontation between the two families and when the other kids mother asked why her son was beaten up without asking what happened, my neighbours wife said she sent her son to go buy something in a store and he was beaten up by the kid on his way back without provocation, then the other kids mother explained what happened exactly to my neighbours wife and it turns out he beat up the other kids younger sister because she was playing with a toy car and he wanted to play with it also but she refused and he decided to beat her and collect the toy car by force which also lead to him being beaten up by the girls elder brother.
So you see, if my neighbour had asked the kid what happened from the begining and listened to him first without beating the boy up she would have known that her child was the one guilty and the confrontation between the two families would have been avoided and that was why the father was scolding the wife for being too impulsive and quick to act without listening to the other kids explaining and concluded with what their son told her.
Also for me there was a time when I use to be an introverted person, which means I don't like participating too much on social activities and always keep to myself anything that is bothering me and even apologies when am not even at fault, then an incident happened to me one day on a site, I was working when suddenly one of the workers at the site approached me demanding for some material to use which I knew was for personal gain and I declined because I knew it will cause loss for the company but the man insisted even bringing up the fact that am disrespecting him and that he can give birth to me but i still declined, then he started taking it too far by pushing me hard being aggressive and i nearly stumbled and fell, then i got really provoked and yelled at him which caught the attention of other fellow workers and they approached and asked what happened and I told them exactly what happened. Most of them got angry on my behalf because of the man's behaviour even stressing that they have never seen me angry at all before, because no matter what I don't show my angry side but for me to even yell at the man means that he crossed the line too far.
Everything was then resolved amicably afterwards but I learnt that me being too humble and introverted will make others disrespect me alot and even try to step on me every chance the get with no regards for anything or anyone. Since then, I don't tolerate such behaviour any longer but I also don't confront anybody first without due cause. I still don't talk much till now because I prefer to understand a situation and listen before concluding and talking too much.
If you develop the habit of listening more and talking less it will save you alot of unnecessary troubles that comes with words that can't be taken back when said and also it will give you alot of power and leverage because you observe and see everything but choose to remain silent which will make others be abit cautious around you because they don't really know what you are thinking.
Before you conclude on something regarding someone try the powerful alternative the call 'asking '.
Be humble but not too humble because others will see it as a sign of weakness and try to leverage it and also be bold and courageous to speak out but not arrogantly because it might also land you in trouble.
Thank you for stopping by and reading this. Love you all
I love this writeup, just judging someone without proper verification is wrong, sometimes. Paying more attention than talking much is way better to increase simulation. Thank you for sharing sir
Thank you sir @chizzy100 for going through this post and yes conclusion without verification is bad
It is good to always ask questions before jumping to conclusions and taking judgement. I say it was wrong for the woman who sent her child to the store to act that way without proper investigation. Listening and asking questions will give you a proper insight on how to handle certain issues without making unfair judgement. Thank you sharing with us.
That was her error, not asking before beating the other kid up and it was not fair truly.
Thank you for reading the write-up sir @joshel
Omo this is not new Sha some parents are something else they don't ask questions and just jump into conclusion.
This also reminded me of what my aunty did to my younger brother one morning because she came out and saw her daughter crying so because she saw my younger brother standing next to her without hesitation she started shouting at my 3years old brother asking him what he did to her 5years old daughter just to realize she was crying because she was hungry and my brother was showing concern as a kid seeing another kid crying.
Being quick to react without proper questioning is very wrong because you might end up beating or causing harm to someone innocent and later regret it.
Your aunt was also quick to judge and if her daughter had not talked she might have blamed everything on your younger brother which will not be fair.
I appreciate the comments sir @emprex
Omo this is not new Sha some parents are something else they don't ask questions and just jump into conclusion.
This also reminded me of what my aunty did to my younger brother one morning because she came out and saw her daughter crying so because she saw my younger brother standing next to her without hesitation she started shouting at my 3years old brother asking him what he did to her 5years old daughter just to realize she was crying because she was hungry and my brother was showing concern as a kid seeing another kid crying.
What the mother did was a very bad approach. Like you pointed, if only she had decided to listen and dig more, the scenario all would have been avoided. It's always important to listen more and talk less. And for your incidence with the man, I'll say he really overstepped for you to really get angry bro. I can understand with your friends thinking so as well. There are many advantages to being quiet and watch some things happen before giving your take not just rushing in, as you've mentioned. And yes, your humility should not be that others would want to step on you.
Truly boss, questioning first is important and also not letting people take your humility for weakness is also very important.
@daverick thank you sir
Truly some take our humility for weakness not knowing that behind the gentility is a hostile spirit you decided to subdue because you prioritise your peace.
Well, sometimes you need to breakout of the shell so as not to be disrespected too far..
Thank you for sharing this with us @samarijr0
Thank you chief @ovey10 for also taking your time to read this post and I really appreciate the comments
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