Why did Eric Fromm title this book ‘The Art of Loving’? Eric Fromm said in this book; ‘What is love? Is it active or passive? Which is more important, loving or being loved?’. Those are questions that are questions for all of us, including Eric From.
Most people define love as a feeling of liking something and this is a gift or coincidence. For example, suddenly there is a kind of feeling that comes by chance without reason and something, then that is what is called love. Usually people understand that, so the word: ‘Falling in Love’ appears. So the question is, is love really like that?
In this book, he explains at length that love is not like that. In fact, love is like an art. Not something that comes suddenly and something that is coincidental and given.
Because love is like art, love must be understood and practiced. So, the matter is not what you love but more like how you love. Like today, everyone focuses on what they like, what they want and what they love, because Eric Fromm said in this book, love is not like that. Love is more complex than something that focuses on us.
I like the focus of Eric Fromm's writing about the meaning of love like this sentence:
'To become a loving person, focus on how to love well, not what we love. So love is not a matter of who you love, but a matter of how you love.'
In that sentence I started to think about one main idea, oh it turns out that love doesn't need to be tired of looking for the right one. Be a lover, then love properly. Later even everything will be worthy of love. If you love, then love in the right way, over time, then love will come back to you. You don't have to search tiredly, focus on how you love.
If your focus is on what you deserve to love, then you end up being picky. This is what is called selfish. If your focus is on loving in the right way. So, the problem of love so far, said Eric Fromm, many have been misidentified. It is considered that first of all to love there is something that must be loved. No, that is wrong. First of all you have to know how to love well and correctly.
Just like if you want to write, you have to know the perfect spelling first before you write. No matter how good the object is, if you are not good at writing, then the writing is damaged. Loving is also like that.
So, that is what Eric Fromm reminded us. Love is not just a feeling of liking, we are lucky to be given the gift of love. Not like that. Love is like art, it must be learned. Even though there is talent, but not just any old thing, so that everything is right.
The greatest relationship between humans is love.
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That should be a regular topic for people to ponder on, really. "Do I just focus on who I love? How exactly do I love?" Those types of questions for self-awareness and impovement. And perhaps we'll all do much. better in being friends, parners, and lovers. I love the photos, by the way. They have a calming feel to them.