It is great to actually see a book review from you again, lengthy and with a video, always top notch. When I saw Gabor Mate, I had a hunch it was from you 😅
This is a very vital topic that people sometimes neglect. I do agree with the idea that broken people do often procreate broken offspring, hence it is pertinent that people heal before considering creating a family. The choice of partner is also important.
I really like how you deconstructed the topic and then proffered the solution, an effective one at that.
A very profound thing was the idea of leaving a toxic environment. It's very key. You can't heal where you hurt.
Thank you for another beautiful review 🎉
Merry Christmas 🎄⛄
Hey! Thank you very much for appreciating the effort behind my review, I always strive to do my best when I have to extract the essential from any book.
My conclusion is the same, as this book is not only for people with ADD. I think it is for everyone, as the current society makes a lot of people ill. And parenting nowadays might prove even more challenging now due to technology addiction.
When you take a step back and just imagine how complex is our brain and how early childhood affects us....it puts parenting in a whole different light. I can only say that it should stimulate any person to want to heal before even thinking about kids. At least this is what reading about the human mind has made for me: realizing the responsibility one has in the healing or perpetuating of trauma for future generations.
Leaving the environment is difficult. That person has to first realize what is wrong in that environment. And if mom or dad are involved, that is tough. It is really a miracle to be able to awaken and see everything in a different light. Without any help or guidance the only resource is , paradoxically, a traumatic event that might shake that person and make them realize stuff. It is ironic that the adult still expects the mom or the dad who hurt them to behave differently 30 years later. Many adults do not even realize the abuse, the dysfunctional parenting they have received. They behave like that was normal. For those adults it is even harder to pinpoint why they feel the way they do. The pull toward the main caregiver's approval is so strong even in adulthood that only a lot of therapy, self healing work or outside help can shed some light.
Have a Happy Christmas and a 2023 filled with joy🤗