After Valentine's Day, a female friend called me to check up on me because it had been a while since we spoke, and during our conversation, she said how sad she was because she couldn't celebrate the special day with her man. I asked her why, and she said they both live in different cities and their relationship is more of a long-distance relationship, I smiled because I knew exactly what she was going through. I also didn't celebrate the day with my special someone because we both live in different cities.
While talking to her, I heard how sad she sounded, so I shared my experience with her and a particular book I read that has kept me going, and that is what I will be doing in today's blog.
Hello, my name is Fashtioluwa, and I am glad you made it to this blog. Sit back and relax as you learn from my experience.
I told Bolanle not to be sad about it because I had been in that position, and I knew what she was going through.
How did I meet my Partner?
I had just arrived in the city from Abuja. I was home with my parent doing nothing, but I had a job. Since my job was to manage a truck company, most of the time, I just made a call to the drivers and asked how things were going at the office, but on this special day, I visited the office because I was going to travel back to Abuja city. I was never the Facebook type, but I saw this familiar name pop up on my screen with a question: "Did you put on black trousers and a white shirt with green stripes?"
I had to look at the clothes I was putting on, and it was exactly what she said, then I replied: "Yes, I am." It was at that moment I started chatting with her. I later discovered Ooreofe was currently living in the city I was and she saw me on my way to work. This is a lady I have known for a very long time, but I don't talk to her. The most we do is exchange pleasantries and move our separate ways.
We started talking, we met up, and it was one of the best moments of my life. The following week, I traveled back, but we never stopped talking. We started dating online, and it was 9 months before we saw each other again, then she traveled.
All those times we were far from each other, we never stopped talking to each other. We spoke on different topics, had a fixed time for our Facetime, call often, and there was no communication gap between us. We send gifts to each other even when we are far from each other, which makes us feel close.
To help us understand the kind of relationship we are in, we read the same books, and one of my favorites was "My Teddy Bear" by Nathanael Disu and Esther Odemwingie.
This is a book that was written by two couples who are married but started off in a long-distance relationship. The book is a very healthy and helpful book for couples who are in a long-distance relationship. There is so much to learn from the book that can help heal and understand each other better to make it work.
I told this much to Bolanle, and then I shared the book in a PFD format with her, she was happy with everything I said, and her mind was firm again.
The truth is that it is not easy for people who truly love each other and are in a long-distance relationship, the longing for one partner can be so painful at times it breaks one's spirit, but there are also benefits to it. But one thing I said to Bolanle, which I still stand on, is that "Once both parties are sure of each other, and they are ready to take things to the next level, they should move into a certain radius that it would be easy to reach each other with just a call. They don't have to live in the same house, but they have to be within a certain radius so their bond can grow stronger.
Thanks for reading.
All images used are mine, while the book is a screenshot from the cover image.
This is my entry for the #februaryinleo daily prompt day 19. I am inviting you to be a partaker of this amazing experience.
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wow.....👏👏👏👏
Being in a long-distance relationship can be tough, if both partners are committed, it can make the relationship stronger, I akso love your advice about moving closer to each other once there's assurance of taking things to the next level.
Cmmunication is key in any relationship, as long as you're talking openly, honestly you can overcome any distance...
Thanks for sharing.
Very true. Once there is good communication as the bedrock, then if there is any issue, they can talk about it and provide a solution and that's how relationships are meant to be. Now, long distance doesn't mean they have to be in a different state; they can be in the same state but in a different city; that's also long distance. Thanks for this amazing comment
I love that you understood my point and agree with me.
I love this response.
thanks boss🙇
Distance relationships most times doesn't work out tbh
what did you say so.
Because the two parties might end up not being loyal to each other
Being loyal to each other in what way? You mean sex?
Mr alien turned to Mr long distance relationship coach 😁😁. I greet you o.
I like this book even though I am yet to read it. You did well in encouraging her. But sincerely you guys are trying. I can't and being away from my partner in another city, omo yawa fit gas o
ahhaha,
Well,, different people have different preferences, but now I am not saying they should be away from each other forever. If they can't deal with it when they are in their relationship, how can you deal with your partner getting a job in another state and having to move for a little while to get the job done? You won't be able to cope, is that what you are saying?
We would both move to tht city where he got the job o. I can't sand being away from my partner but I am not clingy o.
You are jare 🌚🌚
Lolsss, no I'm not. My love language is quality time and so I need my man with or around me to share quality time with.
I like distance relationship a lot.