You don't have to be convinced. That is just how this works. You first love and respect ypurself, only then can love another person.
You are preposterous in your claims. Not everyone deserves live, not even respect. Operating from self-hate mode and expecting strangers to tolerate your psychotic fits is a sure way to get beaten up or checked into mental institution ( or jail ).
If love is to mean anything, it is not sonething that can be demanded by complete strangers, who are fucking psycho ( what you described ).
You apparently have no idea where these tenets camevfrom, so seek first, you sound ridiculous...