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cheers @nanixxx , but she is long gone now

But when you say I never forgave her for that, I took it to mean that she still doesn't have that forgiveness. And even if she hasn't been around for a long time you can still forgive her.

I am sorry if my comment was unfortunate.
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No @nanixxx not unfortunate at all no worries xx ( I ended the marriage in 2004, and she died in 2021)