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Separation after a long relationship is a deeply challenging process, both emotionally and physiologically.
During the bond, neural networks are activated that imbue shared experiences with a unique emotional tone, shaping the personalities of both partners.
Over time, they become so accustomed to each other that, when they decide to separate, they cannot immediately get rid of those neurochemical connections that bind them together.
After the break-up, the memories evoke in the body a sense of deprivation of these habitual chemical compounds, generating a deep pain resulting from the abrupt interruption of an established neurological pattern.
It is therefore not uncommon for many couples to enter into a cycle of separation and reconciliation.
While we may distance ourselves physically, we remain dependent for a time on the emotional states that the relationship generated on a chemical level.
When we feel attraction, we believe we have found the ideal partner, but often this attraction reflects unresolved emotional wounds.
Subconsciously, we look for partners to help us deal with these inner problems, even those we do not consciously recognise.
The more abandoned we feel, the more we are attracted to those who tend to pull away emotionally.