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Does losing a loved one qualify me to write this post about handling grief? I think the best person to explain the route to a destination is someone who has been there. They know the in and out of everything.
Grief is a natural response to loss. It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away. Often, the pain of loss can feel overwhelming and coping with it is one of life's greatest challenges.
Grief if not well handled can lead to depression. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but there are healthy ways to deal with the grieving process.
It is important to note that the grieving process takes time. Healing happens gradually; it can’t be forced or hurried—and there is no “normal” timetable for grieving.
Some people start to feel better in weeks or months. For others, the grieving process is measured in years. Whatever your grief experience, it’s important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to naturally unfold.
Right after a loss, it can be hard to accept what happened. You may feel numb, have trouble believing that the loss really happened, or even deny the truth. If someone you love has died, you may keep expecting them to show up, even though you know they’re gone.
Then there is this feeling of emptiness. This will cause you to cry and it's okay.
You may regret or feel guilty about things you did or didn’t say or do.
Even if the loss was nobody’s fault, you may feel angry and resentful. If you lost a loved one, you may be angry with yourself, God, the doctors, or even the person who died for abandoning you. You may feel the need to blame someone for the injustice that was done to you.
On the 24th of May, 2014 I lost my most precious Jewel, my mum. Some of these tips I will be talking about are practical steps I applied that worked for me.
The first step is to face your feelings. You can try to suppress your grief, but you can’t avoid it forever. In order to heal, you have to acknowledge the pain. Trying to avoid feelings of sadness and loss only prolongs the grieving process. Unresolved grief can also lead to complications such as depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and health problems.
I went through this myself when I lost my mum. I was in complete denial and didn't face my grief. It ended up prolonging it as everyone was gradually healing with time and I was just starting my grieving process when I finally came to terms with reality. I can boldly say it's not a good experience.
Seek support for grief and loss.The pain of grief can often cause you to want to withdraw from others and retreat into your shell. But having the face-to-face support of other people is vital to healing from loss.
Comfort can also come from just being around others who care about you. The key is not to isolate yourself. Accept every acceptance that is being offered.
Often, people want to help but don’t know how, so tell them what you need—whether it’s a shoulder to cry on, help with funeral arrangements, or just someone to hang out with. If you don’t feel you have anyone you can regularly connect with in person, it’s never too late to build new friendships.
Also, draw comfort from your faith. If you follow a religious tradition, embrace the comfort its mourning rituals can provide. Spiritual activities that are meaningful to you—such as praying, meditating, or going to church—can offer solace.
Join a support group. Grief can feel very lonely, even when you have loved ones around. Sharing your sorrow with others who have experienced similar losses can help. To find a bereavement support group in your area, contact local hospitals, hospices, funeral homes, and counseling centers, or see the Resources section below.
Talk to a therapist or grief counselor. If your grief feels like too much to bear, find a mental health professional with experience in grief counseling. An experienced therapist can help you work through intense emotions and overcome obstacles to your grieving.
Take care of yourself as you grieve
When you’re grieving, it’s more important than ever to take care of yourself. The stress of a major loss can quickly deplete your energy and emotional reserves. Looking after your physical and emotional needs will help you get through this difficult time.
Try to maintain your hobbies and interests. There’s comfort in routine and getting back to the activities that bring you joy and connect you closer to others can help you come to terms with your loss and aid the grieving process.
Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel, and don’t tell yourself how to feel either. Your grief is your own,
Look after your physical health. The mind and body are connected. When you feel healthy physically, you’ll be better able to cope emotionally. Combat stress and fatigue by getting enough sleep, eating right, and exercising. Don’t use alcohol or drugs to numb the pain of grief or lift your mood artificially.
Death is inevitable. Prepare yourself for it. There is a time to be born and a time to die.
2014 and another year 7 years and the pain is not getting easier I bet. It’s a lovely honour blog I wish you strenght
And I know she will feel the words and love that you feel for her.
The pain still remains. Sometimes time doesn't heal all wound.
Thank you very much for your kind words ♥️
I do not know the pain or understand the pain of losing a loved one, I have never had to experience it.
I know you still miss her, I love that you always try to honour her memory.
I don't pray you experience such pain soon.
It's not a good one.
I like to always write about her, she lived a good life.
Thanks for stopping by.
I do not pray for it as well.
That's awesome
Thank you very much for reading
You're welcome dear