Wow.
The timing of this is uncanny. I JUST wrote a post with similar sentiment.
https://ecency.com/mentalhealth/@clairemobey/mommy-s-mental-health-chapter-de21d7fe58b5a
Sometimes people just aren't ready or project their own emotions of inadequacy onto performers. We're soft targets.
I've read a lot of Brene Brown and worked a lot on dealing with my own shame, and to quote her briefly:
"If you're not also in the arena, getting your ass kicked, then frankly, I'm not interested in your feedback."
The quote comes from a Theodore Roosevelt speech:
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."
To add to your list, Producers hated " Bohemian Rhapsody" too.
What a coincidence @clairemobey !!!
Hmm, I should use sometimes this quote and apply it before any performance :D Thanks for bringing it 😇
And yes, I know that Bohemian Rhapsody was not that accepted by the producers in the beginning. At least, if I remember well from the movie :D
(sorry for this delayed reply)
They're brave words but it takes more than just saying them. I battle every time I perform but every time it has been with it. The good, the bad and the ugly. And yes I've totally watched that movie at least 9 times 🤣
It does, but once we have at last consciousness of what we have to focus on, it is easier to work on ourselves :))