Growing up, there's one thing I fancy, loneliness and silence' I didn't really see it as something bad and still do not as it has made me enjoy and be able to appreciate the simple things of life.
The more I grew up, the more this lifestyle clings to me like a tick in my soul and I have earned names from people and the most famous one regarding my social lifestyle is Eleha which is Muslim a word.
The way I stay away from people is a huge thing for me. There are times my Mom finds it hard to know if I am home or not because I am always indoors, something she didn't fancy much about me. She has begged me and spoke to me on numerous occasions to always go out and see the world, but I am not like that. I do not enjoy human companionship unless I am having a one on one discussion with someone. I prefer that.
I have passed on a lot of parties, even closed ones where my Mom would rather call my big sister about a very close family's birth, wedding or so than tell me because I wouldn't go. I'll be home when she dresses up, wish her luck, and that's me super happy there's silence again. I have also lost count of the number of times a birthday party of my close neighbors would be next door and I still won't budge and attend no matter how I am called on to come.
But with all these, I can still handle social pressure. I have spoken in public places, been a leader of groups and did my job really well with people involved despite not being a huge fan of people. I don't know how I always pull this off, but I do have to thank my mom for that. She is someone who is socially active, funny, and emotional, and I got those traits from her.
I can boldly say I have just 3 close friends, and we are not in close proximity. We don't speak at all times, but anytime that connection is made, I truly appreciate the real connection we share with each other. How we talk about things, check on ourselves, and listen attentively when the other person is talking. It is something I truly enjoy and not planning on changing any time soon.
My friends know me and the things I am capable of doing. The presence of peace and warmth I prefer over loud places. And rather having a walk, staying home, cooking and enjoying each other's company instead of going to expensive places to take pictures and share or oppress people by posting it or something. I love authenticity and a magical moment with people close to me, and they do too, which is fun and filled with simplicity. This is why I love Robin Marantz words.
If you're satisfied with your social life, according to psychologists, you tend to be satisfied with life in general.
I find a lot of things satisfactory around me because of my social lifestyle which doesn't cost me because I have no one to impress or wear myself out because I want to be known or appreciated by them. I am the opposite, if possible, I don't want anyone to know me. I just want to live life peacefully for me with a few humans I value and share something meaningful with. I don't like attention, and that's why you'll never find me in places that spell it.
A gem found on my playlist guiding me as I write.
I am glad I have been doing well so far with that. I have embraced and nurtured the act of simplicity in me, and it is sure interesting and fascinating as each day passes by.
This is my response to Minimalist Community prompt
Images used are mine and video from #YouTube.
Still yours truly,
Balikis.
Thanks for reading and listening.
Peace be unto those who crave it and more to those who chase it away.
I particularly appreciate the "boldly" here. It took me a long time to be bold about that. I always felt a bit awkward, having few friends. So kudos to you for being bold about who you are, and owning it:)
Thanks for your #KISS
We enjoyed it 😉
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Thank you for the compliment, and it is nice knowing you got to be bold about it. I appreciate your time here.
Thank you 😊
Actually, I am a mixed breed of loneliness and companionship, silence and noisy. Sometimes I prefer being alone but sometimes I prefer to be around people too, in order to be distracted from lifes negative impact. I love attention so much that I crave for it at great length.
Nice write up.
That's good for you. And I understand that feeling also. Thanks for stopping by 😊
A meaningful conversation and friendships are something to be cherished for. It was such a good read and I am happy to know I am not alone thinking the same way :D
Yes they sure are. That's interesting. You are never alone 🤗
Staying indoors all through as if you're a house girl😂.
That was(maybe still) my lifestyle too. I just didn't like being seen by people but as a man, I had pull out and adjust a little because how do I find someone to marry in my room? Lol
Just three close friends? And all these while, I've been thinking I'm a close friend 🫣
Good for you. I also go out more but not to unnecessary places.
Yeah, you should find the Ms. Soon.
Lol