As an adult, I have come to realize that two things make life difficult and overbearing. These are; one's inability to live within their means and the incapability to relate and manage interactions effectively.
There have been times when I found myself unnecessarily pressured. Upon reflection, I realized that I was faced with situations that were not even necessities. I saw that while I struggled to get along with my basic needs, I also found myself giving in to unnecessary financial pressures. There have been times where I let my anger get the best of me and I failed to let love lead. There have also been times when I got unnecessarily disturbed by someone's actions.
Again, there were times I have been so invested in other people's lives that I missed out on my own moments and failed to achieve my goals. Basically, if there's one thing that all my poor habits have in common, it's that they complicated my life, making it more difficult and leading me to struggle in my day-to-day living.
Having indulged these poor habits, my life became a battlefield, and I realized that I didn't like how it was going. I saw myself sinking into depression, and I knew I needed to get out. But how? It was at this point that I devised two principles:
1. If I cannot afford it, then it's not for me.
I have been actively practicing this principle of sustainability and over the past years, I have come to live a less complicated life. My life is worth living, and it flows smoothly without obstructions. I see myself living within my means and being content with my pace. I no longer view life as a competition, nor do I feel the urge to make unnecessary purchases to impress anyone.
Currently, my changed habits had led me to spending less and saving more, which has given me room to expand my financial strength for a secured future. Not only that but, I now prioritize my needs over my wants, making me less financially reckless. More so, with this safe practice of mine, I now employ the use of a budget, and tracking my finances has never been easier.
In fact, just this January, I was checking my monthly expenses and discovered that I had spent thrice the budgeted fund. This discovery came as a shock to me because I could no longer see the value of whatever the money was expended on. I immediately went back to my drawing board and saw that I had indulged myself in many frivolities. What actually happened was that my finances improved, and instead of increasing my savings, I unknowingly increased my consumption.
With January as a guide, I was able to cut down drastically on my expenses by February because I had identified the problem early enough. Thus, this led me to include another catch phrase to the principle which is, even when I can get afford it, as long as I don't need it, it is not for me.
2. What does not serve me cannot bother me.
Well, even when it serves me, I choose not to be bothered because I have since learned that life will always take care of me as long as I don't dwell on worries and focus on finding solutions. To a large extent, I'd say that I have succeeded in maintaining a positive mindset and emotional resilience, such that no matter what happens, I stand tall with my emotions in check. I am no longer a slave to anger and it excites me.
Right now, I have prioritised walking away over a show of anger. Choosing peace won't have been possible for me if I hadn't prioritise self-care and found my emotional state at equilibrium. Good enough, I am now able to confidently set boundaries and these have helped declutter my mind, giving me more rooms to think and plan healthy.
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STOPThank you 🙂
That feeling and the urge to spend and buy things because the money is there, is real😂.
I used to experience it too until I shut my mini-long throat
😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤲🏿 it is when the real expenses will come that your eye will shine 😂