What is most important and what is not?

in The MINIMALIST3 days ago

I have been doing a lot of personal reforms lately or let's call it transformation. Is it my financial life? Or My personal life? A lot of over hurling happened, took place and is still taking place.

You see, I have this friend that will always tell me that my old age will be bad because of how I find it hard to let go of items. I have had someone on hive warn me of my clutter habits. She said it gets worse as one ages. She advised that I put in conscious efforts to change while I still can.

Then another friend informed me that our home is a reflection of who we are mentally, spiritually and emotionally. He said he could tell one's personality from their home arrangements. Every time that I look at my space and how choked it seems from all that stuff that I do not need to buy and find it hard to let go, I understand why my life was in turmoil.

Again, my mom would often say if you cannot arrange your physical life, your spiritual life will be messed up. Back when we were kids and cluttered a lot, my mom would tell my siblings and I that how our room looks will reflect in our dreams and give us nightmares. We thought she was just saying those things to get us to be tidy. But as I grew older and connected the dots in all the things happening in my life, everything that has been said to me from childhood up to my adulthood made sense.

As a professional economist one would think my financial game will be strong but boy do I have a bad spending habit. I tend to go overboard and buy things that I end up not using. The major problem was that once I see items on sale for a ridiculously cheap amount of money, I am clearing the shelf. I'll often console myself with if I do not need it now, I'll definitely need it later. But then, I end up not ever needing it and these items go bad or expire. In this same period of my bad spending habit, I struggled with saving and I was always broke.

Despite being taught needs and wants in Economics and how we should focus on our need instead of our want, because human wants are insatiable, I did quite the opposite. My course mate would often tease me that my degree needs to be revoked because I'm a disgrace to Adam Smith.

Along the line, he came to my rescue, taught me discipline and how to live like a minimalist . Any new thing he sees with me, I am explaining the importance of that thing and showing him how useful it is to me. If he comes to my house, he will go through my stuff and bring out so many things that I am keeping for future purposes and trash them. He'll say if you are not using it now, then you don't need them. I started taking cautious spending decisions and became more resourceful.

From there, I started to declutter and my personal space no longer felt choked up or felt like a dumpsite. This habit got to my relationships too. I stopped giving people too many chances because that was just me giving them room to keep taking advantage of me. I came up with the three strike rule, if you offend me, after several warnings and it gets to three strikes, I'm cutting you off without notice, no quarrel and no explanations. My life has never been more peaceful, easier and it has never moved more smoothly than what I have going on now. Peace of mind? Non negotiable.

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You are welcome 🙂

It's truly amazing how much smoother life seems to go when we cut back and behave more consciously with our purchasing decisions. I'm glad you were able to find a balance and enjoy the benefits!

Thank you for reading me 🙂😊

Thanks to Adams Smith who reminded you of being economically intelligent. Lol. Decluttering definitely gives some of kind of peace that's never leaving for as long as the cluttering habit never comes back to life.

Never o! Afflictions shall never be rising again 😂...

Thank you Adam Smith 🙂‍↔️🙂‍↔️🙂‍↔️

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That three strike rule is very important. It is really important to protect your peace at all cost. People will come at you with different things. First time -a mistake, second time- they forgot… third time- bye bye.
As you said, peace of mind should not be negotiable.

It is that bye bye part that sweet me 🤣