Love, very little romanticism from a Minimalistic perspective...
When we talk strictly about love, I'm not sure why we always tend to think of it as the same as romance. While they may go together, they are not dependent on each other. In fact, quite the opposite, on many occasions.... For example, when we are younger (young, not children) we feel with a depth that later, when we are wiser, we see as something difficult to explain to ourselves. In principle, we are not usually too selfish. We understand this feeling with extreme passion but very little emotional intelligence?
In a simpler way, there is no balance. From a Mininalist perspective, love goes hand in hand with learning and processes. It is not synonymous with being stingy, clumsy or poor, but understanding that it is from the most basic unit of understanding that an emotion as powerful as love is processed. Let's go back to youth... How many times, as teenagers, did we feel that the world would ‘fall apart’ just because we ended a relationship with another teenager like us?
Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that being young is synonymous with doing things wrong or anything like that, but that we don't understand what is happening to us. Loving has phases. The most obvious but least used of all is self-love. Absurd as it may seem, you can't really love anyone if you don't feel real appreciation, care and communion with yourself. These are the stages I was referring to when I mentioned the mini-mininalist perspective. You start with yourself. If you don't do it this way, you will hardly be able to understand yourself and the processes that make you understand your feelings and emotions.
Limits, likes, dislikes, pleasures, and so on, are part of the process. The same, that not many years later (at least, from a theoretical point of view) we will have to apply in our more adulate stage, and therefore, more capable... Loving, my friends, is a whole. It starts with that fire that seems like it will never be extinguished but that almost always burns out too quickly. It is more like a marathon race, which requires endurance highs and lows, than a 10-second sprint over 100 metres. Personally, it took me several years to find the balance between the woman who has the weakness (wildfire) and the woman who must learn to use that flame wisely (cunning).
I have never been (or so I want to believe) mean or miserable to others, but only to myself. I found in the simple per podeross philosophy of mininalism what you need to make sense of a practice, which strangely enough we always associate with romance, and which in very few scenarios really seem to be the same thing. Today is the day of love and friendship, a day to celebrate and to release those ‘flames’ we all keep inside. May you have the best day possible and may pleasure, joy and happiness be part of your day, your life but above all; may you understand that for almost everything in this existence, employing minimalism could be very useful. Happy Valentine's Day.
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I think it's also just a matter of growing older and learning to balance your emotions and life a little better. Also, the older you get, the more well-defined your personality becomes (preferences, needs, quirks, etc.), which might help tip the balance more towards temperance, whereas when you're a kid, you're more malleable, more eager, it's easier to throw all caution to the wind and just do it for the passion. Nice idea! :)
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