I was tired of listening to her since she never took my advice anyway and I spent each day worrying it would be her last because of the intensity of the abuse?
I used to have a friend who would do this too. She would often seek advice, but she never took it seriously. She would find herself enmeshed in a cycle of marital problems, constantly seeking guidance to resolve them. One night, she pleaded with me to come over to my place, unable to tolerate her husband's behavior (he was just a jerk but never physically abused her). I said, "No, look, my kids and I are unwell, and we need to rest, and I can't rest while having you unloading your endless issues on me." I basically stopped taking her calls since then. Did I feel guilty? Of course, but my mental health and the family are important too. She never once asked me how I was doing, whether I was well, or if the kids were okay. No, never. She was using me to unload her BS and nothing else. I haven't spoken to her for almost 10 years now, and I don't regret it one bit.
I'm glad you're establishing boundaries with your friends ❤️
Wow. That must have taken a lot of courage to do, and I can't imagine the number of times you must have reminded yourself to stick to your decision.
I'm happy you did this for you and even though I'm not completely there yet, I'm learning to protect my core and peace of mind because frankly no one else will do it better. I hope we keep having the grace to make good and wise decisions in life. This was incredibly relatable and heartwarming to read. Thank you so much.❤️
I was there with this friend for 10 long years, since before I got married and had kids. I was always the one listening to her woes, offering comfort and advice. I told her not to rush into relationships, and there she went, jumping into bed with anyone she fancied, getting herself pregnant, aborting it, and off she jumped to the next one. On and on. I couldn't take it. I felt I was taken for granted. Enough is enough. I hope you don't have to resort to this decision.
I hope I don't ever have to but I'm sorry for anyone who goes through it. You are one brave woman and I hope the lines keep falling to you in pleasant places. Thank you for sharing your story with me. I have paid keen attention and I have learnt so much. I hope to keep learning from you in the future.❤️
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Thank you ❤️