I once had a friend named Joy who got married a year before I did. Joy often struggled with negativity and trust issues, which led to constant conflicts in her home. At that time, I was a full-time housewife without a job or business. Joy would frequently visit me, treating me as her confidant and sharing personal details about her marriage that should have remained private.
I felt obligated to listen, even though her constant venting made me uncomfortable. Despite suggesting she see a professional counselor, she dismissed the idea. One day, she sought my advice on a deeply personal matter in her marriage, expecting me to provide solutions. At that point, It became clear her negativity was beginning to weigh on me. I realized I was expending too much emotional energy on her issues, and she likely kept coming back because I always made time to listen.
As I reflected on our friendship, I noticed how unbalanced it had become. I wasn’t gaining anything positive from the relationship, and her endless complaints were draining my energy. I also realized that if I had something productive to focus on a skill, job, or project I wouldn’t have had the time or energy to entertain her grievances. That realization motivated me to make a change.
Gradually, I started distancing myself from Joy without making it obvious. I focused on learning a new skill, fashion design to be precise I poured my energy into achieving personal goals. My days became filled with intentional activities, leaving no room for idle conversations or distractions. Joy could no longer find me at home, and our interactions grew brief. She eventually had to find someone else to lean on or handle her problems independently.
One comment she made still lingers in my mind: “If you don’t do this… for your husband, he’ll cheat on you.” Such negative, fear-based remarks only pushed me further away. It became clear this friendship revolved around mistrust and blame, and I no longer saw value in maintaining it.
This experience taught me an important lesson: the world is already filled with enough challenges and negativity. Surrounding myself with positive, uplifting people is essential for my well-being. Everyone has their own struggles, but while some manage them quietly, others offload their burdens onto those around them. I chose to declutter my life of negativity to protect my peace of mind.
Friendship should be a mutual exchange of support, not a one-sided relationship filled with complaints and toxicity. Joy’s influence reminded me of the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing my mental health. Life is too short to entertain toxic energy, and I’m better off for recognizing that truth.
In addition to avoiding such, I adopted a practice to maintain positivity and focus which honestly speaking has been working well for me. I started practicing early morning yoga and meditation, which helped me clear my mind and filter out negativity. These practices have been instrumental in keeping me centered and motivated. Beginning my day with clarity and happiness allows me to attract positivity and remain focused on achieving my goals.
There’s something incredibly fulfilling about starting each day with intention and peace. It reinforces the idea that happiness is a choice, and by staying positive, you naturally draw more positivity into your life.
What a lovely post!
I'm sorry you went through such an experience, but the wisdom you've gained is priceless.
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Yeah! I did what I had to do, my mental health was at stack and it threatened my happiness. I was done listening...
I am glad you enjoyed reading my post, thank you for your time.
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It's always a concern when one surrounds herself with a friend with negative energy...it could be contagious and in negative way
Good enough you knew when to draw the line and have your sanity
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Yeah! At the point of exhaustion I have to tell myself the sweet truth.
Thank you for your time.
Yes choosing friendship is of utmost importance as they can either make or mare you, for me I choose to surround myself with people who are positive in their reasoning
Yeah! People who are positive would definitely bring you happiness with their positivity. It's actually a wise choice.
When friends outgrow each other, always an experience. I can only applaud you doing yoga, it’s a beautiful state. Thanks for sharing your story
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This is quite inspiring and the good thing is that you are truly a smart person.
I am glad I was able to handle the situation.
One of the reasons I don't think of getting married and remain single in life. I hope Joy will also find peace and real joy in life !BBH
I hope so too.
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Yes! I agree with you.
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