Hello everyone!
Some weeks ago, I wrote about how I smartly and carefully pulled out of a relationship with a lady I found to be the opposite of me. To some extent, hoarding is considerably easy to cope with because the items or feelings involved could be sentimental, but this lady was excessively deep into it, with endless purchases and a never-ending list of new items. She wasn't a simple person when it came to clothing, shoes, and bags. She just kept buying and keeping them, even without using them.
Yoh! I don’t need to be with someone who keeps doing things that go against my principles. And above all, I don’t need to keep emptying my pocket to buy things that are completely useless at home—unless she is going to be doing that with her own money. But even if she does, won’t my eyes still see where they are piled up? My eyes and brain would surely itch every time I saw them. Lol
Another thing was how she wasn't ready to let go of the ones she hadn't used for many years because, according to her, she bought them at a very high price and couldn't afford to give them out… so they became decorations in her house 🥲.
So yes, my minimalist practice extends deeply into my relationship life as well. Just like many people out there can't imagine marrying celebrities because of how open their lives are, I take choosing a partner for a relationship just as seriously. I can't imagine myself being in a relationship where I constantly have to kick against someone's lifestyle if she is the complete opposite of me. Of course, she would eventually get tired of my nagging and start feeling uncomfortable—unless she decided to change her lifestyle, which is almost impossible because changing someone’s way of life takes a lot of effort.
In the few years I have lived on this planet and in the few relationships I have had, I have only found compatibility in terms of minimalism with two partners.
I remember one instance when the lady suggested we grow some crops in the backyard so that we could easily pluck from there whenever we wanted to cook, instead of buying everything from the market. Under normal circumstances in my part of the world, this idea sounds like "being stingy" or "being too economical," but that’s not it. It reflects a level of simple living—the satisfaction of growing your own food organically while also saving money.
When I talk about having a minimalist partner, I don’t mean someone who is completely "local." No. I mean someone who moves with the flow of the era while still keeping things simple. Taking myself as an example, I love to dress nicely, but there are certain trends I know I can’t just get along with or buy because if I do, in a short time, I’m going to dump them, and they’ll become useless.
Thanks for reading.
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So you're saying a lack of minimalism is a deal-breaker for you. That is understandable and it's a smart move to know that about yourself early on (as opposed to pursuing relationships with maximalist/consumerist women which would end us in misery for everyone :)
Yes, a smart move for me.
People say 'unlike charges' attract and this is most times channeled to relationship too but this is not on minimalism please 😂