I've never been a fan of dating apps as I am quite an introvert person and I heard way too many scary situations that took place after people met IRL after chatting for a bit on dating apps.
However, I can relate to how hard it is to find a relationship to build with another person and work in the same direction. Many people don't understand that they have to work full time for a relationship just as they work on a job. It's not enough to be there for each other if they both don't go in the same direction and make compromises for the well-being of the relationship. Having a relationship work well requires sacrifices, compromises and lots of understanding along with love, loyalty and the other basics everyone is aware of..
Hello fellow introvert hihi🤗I know we are living interesting times. Who would have thought that a big portion of today's singles would be looking for love on an app? In the same time if all of your friends are married...where do you search? And the irony of it all is that when one searches for love they can't seem to find it even in large social circles. There is something elusive about the process.
Love is labor. It is not a romantic walk with pink petals sprinkled along the way. It takes work and effort to keep it romantic. They don't show this in movies or teach it in school. When the myth of " I thought love is supposed to be easy, it is or it just isn't" shatters most people walk away. It is just too damn hard. I have a job I have to work at and I also have to work on this thing with the two of us? Come on... Hahaha. You get my point. But on the other side love is not supposed to be all sacrifice. We both know that many of the old couples who lived in the rural area and remained married for 30 years plus...some of them , if not the majority, were filled with abuse. So love is labor but not a constant hug of a cactus.
I wish I could write something that could solve the love equation so we would all live in a more loving and peaceful society. I can't though because we each write our own lovestories. What I would love to see is people going to therapy. Individual therapy. Couple therapy. Just get that locked up closet checked and release the stinky traumas of our ancestors that many of us still carry...