I used to fall into that trap. 'Sure, that guy has seen a lot more career success than me, but I have a happier marriage' etc.
My instinct was to find something, even if it was just one category, where I was outcompeting that person.
One day I realised that it's okay for somebody to outclass me in every category.
To be better than me at everything. Statistically it's bound to be true of plenty of people, and then there would be many more who could outclass me in that one thing if they prioritised it even slightly more.
Rather than focusing on trying to find (or hallucinate) some point of superiority; I'm better off spending time with people who are better than me at stuff; and learning from them.
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This is really interesting and I think it is kind of similar to the people who are very competitive, always winning, but don't have anything they want. they compete to win, without considering if what they get out of it is useful for them. Is it better to beat everyone at everything, or have a life you enjoy?
I am not good at that much, average at a few things - but at least in writing, okay at bringing it into some kind of story that people can connect with, if they choose. Being surrounded by talented people is valuable.