I think it's commendable that you and your wife stood up for what you believed in. Even when large powers and even friends and family are against you. It's often not an easy task, because most want to go with the flow and force you to go along with what the system has taught us. To want to destroy a plant that helps a loved one and doesn't harm anyone else, just because society tells you to, is not logical at all.
Kudos on showing your strength. 🍻