Yesterday I sat down for coffee with one of my younger former colleagues. Programmer in a foreign company, married, loan for an apartment. car loan, three children, the youngest only one and a half years old.
Tired, overburdened, constantly in a rush, he said at one point that he does not see where this world and our lives are going and why we are trying at all.
He say "I can't wait for the children to grow up, finish high school and say goodbye to them and stop doing anything.".
"Well my friend, take it easy, don't stare.
Considering that you have a baby, I appreciate that for at least another 15 to 20 years you should be a top dad, their superhero and the strongest man in the world. I won't hear you whine like this," I told him.
"And then, when the children finish college and find a job, say goodbye to them. See them off to life, and only then go on vacation."
I don't know what got into him? Maybe these protests against the corrupt government and the very fact that he lives with his family in such a thieving state.
But he has to find strength in his family, to change his thinking a little. To motivate himself to keep pushing hard.
When I listen to him, with the story that he lacks a motive for life and has three small children, our motivation for Hive, crypto or generally making money, seems like some children's story, naive and cute 🙂
It's all about perspective... and don't get tricked that the problems of the new generations are bigger than the problems of our grandfathers were... You know that there are many sayings in Serbian for exactly these things... svačija muka je njemu samom najteža... 😃
Is it harder to raise children that you made by your own choice, or driving a car over a bridge under air attack, or to go to the war without knowing how long and if you will come back, and to what you will come back... It's relative, it's personal, and it depends on many things...
I can understand that very well... as I have probably mentioned that many times in my comments (not sure in posts), but similar to that, it was my MAIN reason to find a better place for my child and my family... I was "black sheep" as I left the country... was labelled as a guy who surrendered... Fighting for a better life for your family can't be surrendering...
I hope your friend will find the light in the tunnel and enjoy his family and what he has... As you said, it's not all about money, crypto... It's about creating beautiful moments, memories, and helping others, as that makes us feel better...
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Thank you for taking the time to treat us to a new "walk and talk" video.
I have to agree, the old environment seemed nicer, but OK and this is satisfying.
Just watch out for the car.
"MAIN reason to find a better place for my child and my family... I was "black sheep" as I left the country... was labelled as a guy who surrendered... Fighting for a better life for your family can't be surrendering..."
My own brother also decided to go to Scotland with his family... He had the courage, unlike me, who stayed where I am and who relives the protests, like back in 96/97...
It's not black and white, and again, it's about the perspective... Sometimes, courage is to leave, sometimes, courage is to stay and fight for the right thing...