That's just the fact about life, a lot of us have become a completely different person from what we are supposed to be just because we want to be accepted by people in the society.
Society has created a standard for what's good and bad which is not completely right. It is what it is though but we mustn't let what they will say break our will or who we are.
Whether we choose to please people or not, we will still be talked about; even the case of the dead are still treated abi no be human being?