Tonight is full of emotions... Burst in anger, fear, and overthinking. I'm sad that I have to justify my daughter of getting the candies from my bag. It's not my intention to burst into anger as I want to give her a lesson that she should not steal anything to someone's things without his/her permission. I give her pieces of advise but I don't know if she took what I said seriously. She's just 4 years old and I don't force her to do things yet I insist. I don't know what to do.
Another thing in the same day and almost in same time was that, she uses comfort room and it took couple of minutes in there, not knowing she gets my liquid soap for private part and pour all of it somewhere, anywhere! What I do is to let her stay in an area where she has to face the wall. She cried a lot as I give her a painful rod. Tell me, am I bad mom? All I want is to give her a lesson but still she's too young. I don't know what to do.
We go to bed and slowly asking her what did she do to my liquid soap. And slowly talks about it but not that perfect as expected. However, I do understand her even it's not that valid. She hugged me. It came across on my mind. What if God's will, he'll take me somewhere to my dream job? What will happen to my children? Will they grow accordingly? There are a lot of questions that I came to the point that I cried a lot. I can't breathe, can't composed myself to my innocent daughter, asking her, would you miss Mama if she'll work afar from you? And she nodded. It breaks my heart! All I want is to give them a comfortable life yet if the consequences would be the ruined relationship. Then, I don't want to loosen this tight anymore. What should I do? Please. I don't know what to do😭😭.
I'll appreciate if you give your honest advise to me. Thanks for your time🥹. God bless.
I don't think you're a bad mother. Little kids are curious and don't understand how the world works. The best thing you can do is use dialogue with her, without any violence, tell her that you love her and explain to her in a way that she understands, that certain actions are wrong and specifically why she shouldn't do them and what certain things are used for. Being a mother is not easy at all. Cheer up 🙏
Thanks for a motherly advise Ma'am. Indeed being a mother is not easy sometimes we have to pretend that we're okay but it's not.
"Tough Love" is okay. People say that children's formative years start from birth until reaching 7 years old. Because your dear daughter embraces the tender age of 4, she absolutely needs all the guidance about life - especially from you as her mother. The pain of discipline will always be better than the pain of regret. And she'll definitely thank you for those valuable lessons later on as she gets much older. ☺️
Thank you for this brilliant advise sir. I am sorry for being such an emotional mother 🥹
You're welcome. No need to apologize. We are only human. 😁
You are not a bad Mom, you are just worried to her and you are doing doing the best that you can do for her sake. We can feel you, so don't be too hard on yourself. What you taught to her won't sink in fully into her mind yet, so you really need more patience. Sana mabigyan kapa nang maraming pasensya. Fighting lang!
Thank you sis. I must have more patience and won't react to things abruptly.
You can be firm but I would be careful about getting too mad at her. Being 4 years old yes they are more aware than before but they are still incredibly young. They are exploring their world and working to learn and understand situations and consequences.
It’s better to maybe yell a little bit but talk to her when she does these things. Ask her why she did it and figure out what you can do to do it better the next time.
There’s so much information out there on this specifically but please keep this in mind: “I will never forget the time my parents freaked out about me not eating dinner. For me it was really traumatizing, but for them it was just a Tuesday.”
The quote isn’t perfect but the point is there. We have to be careful what we get really upset with the kids on. Those times are what they remember in 10, 15 years when they are a lot older. They won’t remember the good times only the bad ones and then for us it’s another stressful day. For them it’s the most traumatic thing in their lifetime to day so they remember it extremely well.
I have made a lot of mistakes yelling and getting mad at my son for things and I deeply regret it. The best thing we can do is learn to be better so we don’t do these things again!
I'm sorry I'm a bit emotional however I really appreciate everything you said and I would totally remember and pin this in mind. THANK YOU SO MUCH! Merry Christmas sir!🌲🌲❤️❤️
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