Though I am capable of being independent and taking care of many things on my own, I attribute my positive traits to my mother's(s) influence and guidance. I think without them, I would not be the person I am today. This post is about them. The mothers I have love and hate relationship with.
22nd December in Indonesia is the mother's day. As a kid we celebrate this by giving them simple gifts (usually something we craft), writing thoughtful notes, gratitude and making their day better. Those activities are mostly encouraged at school especially when I was in kindergarten and elementary. As I grow older, during the mother's day, I usually take my mom on a nice dinner, a trip somewhere or just a nice evening stroll. This time around, my mom happens to be here, so I am planning a nice dinner with her.
Believe it or not, I have three mothers. At some point, a woman was about to be added but the fixed number now would be three. Don't ask me how because it's complicated haha. I don't have a good relationship with the other two but their life was equally inspiring to me as the woman who raised me.
All of my mothers embody traits that I have now. One of them is an ultra independent, smart, excelling at her career, making fortune by all means necessary and great at dealing with people. The other has bravery that I think are unmatched. She spent her youth living in a place where she didn't speak the language, far in to the woods, and that enables her to have a great survival skill. She knows how to trap a boar, growing vegetables, farming pearls, fixing things, and to speak her mind without caring what other thinks. Though her stories, I was inspired and amazed of how she has that bravery.
Meanwhile, the woman I respected the most, has the kindness that I needed. She is a loving and caring person. She cares about the weak, the needy, and always tells me to be forgiving. She exudes femininity and I just can't explain how graceful she can be. I always strive to be like her but sadly, I have too much traits of my first mother. After all, they say apple doesn't fall from it tress. But each day, I am trying to add a bit of kindness in me. Life sort of humbles you down sometimes and the lesson from the woman who raised me helped foster it.
Without my mothers, I would not have learned important life concepts such as pain, love, and the complexities of human relationships. They have taught me how to navigate through life and deal with all types of people.
Despite my relationship with them, all of them love me in their ways.They taught me invaluable lesson that I will always remember dearly. Some of them are not easy but they are the part of the truth of life. Most importantly, their support and encouragement have allowed me to dream big and strive for success, even when things get tough. As messed up as I can be, they would be there to cheer me up. But here are some of the most important things that I learned from them :
From my first mother, I learned that money isn't always the answer to happiness. You can't buy certain things with it. You can't just give money to your kid and hoping that they instantly respect you. Money solves problem but can never buy respect.
From my second one, I learned that words are double edged. You can either motivate or break people with your words. Be wise about what you say, think before you speak. Though she has insulted and belitting my dreams, it was just another motivation to me. I am sure that is just her way to show love. She's the tough love kinda mother.
- And from the third one, I learned to accept my flaws. life isn't always perfect and that's okay. I should be grateful for what I have and never forget the family around me. Sometimes in life we can't have what we want. However, find its way to make it worthwhile and fulfilling. She is also the one that convinced me, love and unconditional love exist in this cruel world.
I can only feel fortunate that not everyone gets the chance to have three mothers. While there may be conflicts or drama at times, I am still grateful to have these women in my life. One who brings me into the world, another one who comes because my dad decides so. And another one who raised me since I was a kid. Though in the past I had many issues with it, I have come into an acceptance that they are all plays significant role in my life. And once again, in this special day, I am thanking them for that.
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I always thought you only had two moms Cem, but it is also very nice that you all have learned many things from them.
Send my regard to all of your mother : )
hehe one is my step mother 😁
I've never met someone with 3 mothers. I think it's great that you embrace them all, accept them and learn from them. I pay my respects to all of them because you are a wonderful person and they all have a lot of influence on you.
Hahaha right? I almost had 4 this year but 3 is enough😂. I don't want to have too many drama in my life.
Yeah 3 is enough, One's drama is enough for me I can't imagine 4 😂
Wow...these are valuable lessons from all three mums. Happy mother's day to them.
Indeed! thank you for the wishes!
Ibu adalah sosok penting bagi semua anak tanpa terkecuali, siapapun dia, sesukses apapun dia ibu akan selalu ada bersama doanya, ibu adalah sosok hebat yang pernah ada di muka bumi.
Selamat hari ibu & selamat buat calon ibu 🎉🎉
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I suddenly missed my mother. All the positive traits I have came from her too. Responsible, independent, and hardworking
When is mother's day in your country? I am glad that you also inherit the positive traits from your mother.
Every May.. And she's the kindest and most patient mother of all hehe. We are many, but she managed to raise us all well
Mothers always the great, they play a biggest role in childs life. They our first teacher, empower us to be brave and be prepared in the future 😊. Send my regards to your dear mother's 🤗
That's true! Thank you for the regards. It's holiday season and I am pretty busy 😅
Wah! You really are blessed to have three mothers my friend @macchiata .. They really have given you a lot of learnings that surely help you to become what you are right now.
Salute to all Mothers out there!
My regards to the wonderful women of your life. ❤️
hahah it can be a curse sometimes but I am happy of what they have taught me. Thank you for the wishes too.
That’s wonderful to hear. You seem like you’re a lovely young lady in many ways and it’s certainly because of the influence of these three women! I had thought it was only two but learning of the third adds to the layer of mystery with it all. That’s good to have these strong and different women in your life to show you all of these wonderful but different skills and traits! It’s not easy that’s for sure but the best thing to do as a parent, even if they aren’t biologically yours, is to try to impress upon your children the life lessons and personalities you have in ways that help shape them. This can be both good and bad but it’s the best we can offer and works out in the end I think.
Happy Mother’s Day to these three wonderful women!
Thank you! What I learn from them is always about picking up their good traits and leave aside the bad ones. When I put myself into their shoes, I can empathize with their life. I may not understand their reasoning but best I can do is again, trying to live my life the best way I can with the knowledge they have passed onto myself.