Yah I hear yah.. I'm talking about hate speech exclusively inciting violence. "Burn them all" etc.. kill them throw them in ovens etc..
If you friend lets you talk to him like that.. fine - LOL if someone over hears and is "offended", well too bad.
But on the flip side, if you are cat-calling or doing it in the context outside of "friendship" well that's easy to define.
Oh I could tell you a few stories on that score... lol