Just like any movement (including Christianity) you will find a variety of people. The more vocal and angry being the squeaky wheel draw the spotlight. I don't mind the atheists who are respectful and don't feel intimidated by others beliefs, it is the vocal ones who seem to equate atheism as a war on others beliefs that is the problem I find. They are as fanatical as any of the extremes of any religion.
And I have no doubt there was a control system formed to help create the fanatical ones I dislike.
I agree with you that you will find a wide variety of people in any given religion. There will be differing ethnicities, backgrounds, degrees of extremism, and much more.
You make a good point. We should be respectful. If you believe your truth is life changing, then please share it with me. And then please give me a chance to do the same.