Sabrina Alexis here and I'm gonna reveal a secret that will help
you stay in control of your relationships and
make communicating with your man effortless and drama-
free.
We get tons of questions about why a guy didn't text back, or
what a certain text means, or why a guy waited X amount of
days before calling, etc. I've been there and I know these things
can make you bonkers!
When we like a guy, it's really exciting to hear from him and
incredibly frustrating when we don't.
It's human nature to try to understand things, especially when
they impact us so deeply, and it feels only natural to do some
detective work when we just don't get it.
While analyzing everything that gets said (and is left unsaid)
may seem innocent, it can take an ugly toll on your
relationship, not to mention your emotional state.
Guys can seem pretty oblivious at times, but don't be
fooled; they are incredibly skilled at picking up on
neediness.
When your emotional well-being rides on whether or not he
responds to you, he can sense it. He knows he has complete
control: you aren't going anywhere because everything's riding
on him. You need him to respond to you in a certain way.
I know it can feel impossible to gain control over your mind
when it only wants to focus on him, but it's actually quite simple
when you follow this strategy.
Ready?
Treat him like he's just another one of your friends.
Think about it.
You don't expect to hear from your friends every single day.
And if you don't hear from a friend for a few days, or if she takes
a few hours to text you back, you don't panic and wonder if the
friendship is doomed and think your friend doesn't care about
you anymore.
Instead, your thoughts probably go something like "hmm, I
guess (insert name) must be pretty busy at work, I'm sure I'll
hear from her later."
You don't obsess and pick apart the last text you sent to her,
trying to find a hidden clue to explain why she didn't respond.
You also probably don't think and rethink, write and rewrite the
texts you send to your friends, carefully calculating every
punctuation mark and debating whether or not to use an
emoticon.
The e-mails, texts, IM's and phone calls with your friends
require no analysis and result in no wave of emotions. They're
easy, effortless and natural.
THIS is how you should approach your interactions with the
fellas. As soon as you ditch the drama and just let things
happen naturally, the mounting pressure in the relationship
that you weren't even consciously aware of will dissipate.
You'll also feel a whole lot better and more confident once that
guy no longer has complete control over your emotions.
I've said it before and I'll keep saying it, nothing is more
appealing, intriguing and irresistible to a man than a secure,
confident woman who can be just as happy with him as she is
without him.
Give it a try and see how it works!
Recommended Reading: How to Stop Stressing About Your Relationship
Lots of love,
Sabrina Alexis 
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Hello @achilyke!
Great thoughts, let me know what you think of my content over on my page!
Hello Sabrina, you are smart and yeah, great advice, that is right, men can generally sense codependency, neediness. Strong men may seek after independent women. Love your smile.