Thanks, @creatovert. As we as social beings swing together, my voice and tone would swing with yours, if we would get to meet each other physically.
When I encounter people the first time I would probably do some small (identity)talk in order to feel, listen and gaze at them and they would probably do the same, no? If I prepare myself to concentrate my best interest on them, it might change something. From superficiality and dishonesty to something more authentic. I guess that change only happens when I am ready for expecting the best out of humans. Of course this is no guarantee for a valuable encounter. But chances become bigger that my "service" may work.
In the end it's more of a habit one can learn to cultivate. I am far from perfect and probably won't reach the highest ideal:)
Thank you for your response. Learned a thing or two from you @erh.germany ... I'll try and apply that. I guess I just need to reprogram my habit then