Lars,
I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm glad you got to hold your daughter before the end. My young son was murdered at the young age of 6 (he had just turned). I am on my own journey of recovery.
I followed you. I hope you keep us updated on your path. What helped?
I tell every other parent that they need to hug their child/children. They need to make sure the child/children feels loved.
My son was autistic, and could not communicate with words. I'm sure he felt my love with my physical touch. I miss that little guy. I always will.