A few days ago I made an announcement on my Facebook.
I look forward to a lengthy treatise on your recent self-exposé on hive, however despite the potential enormity of the announcement in question, there was very little fanfare.M'friend @holoz0r suggested - and I am quoting here -
You see, it's Pride Month at the moment, and the announcement I made was to tell my closest friends and loved ones that I am the B in LGBTQIA+. That's Bisexual, for those not in the know.
I'm not sure what "lengthy treatise" @holoz0r expected to see - perhaps a tale of struggling to understand myself, of struggling to be accepted by others for being who I am, of being denied the rights afforded to straight persons.
Perhaps he expected to see a tale of unicorns shitting rainbows as I opened the closet door in sparkling hotpants and a feather boa, and made my announcement to the world.
Unfortunately, not much of the like has occurred.
I've known since I was 16 that I was attracted to dudes on occasion, and the process of self-discovery - though slow - there's really been no struggle for self acceptance. It was always there, and I just publicly announced it.
Being straight acting, being into women, and not telling anyone about it has allowed me to get through life very much unscathed - unlike those who did not have such chest-high walls to crouch behind - so there's really been no issues with having to hide who I was. I never felt like I was hiding anything, because it really never bothered me to have to hide anything.
Similarly, the announcement on my Facebook was to a carefully curated group of friends and family, those who I knew would not pass judgement. I have not told my mother, and do not plan to. I don't plan to make it part of my identity, nor do I intend for anyone on the internet to know without knowing how they might react first. I haven't exactly had to enjoy a dramatic change in behaviour from those who know.
And moving forward? Well, there's often a tale of struggle as well, but I've felt nothing but love from my friends and family. I am single by choice, and despite having more choices available to me, I enjoy the single life.
I am certain I will receive my small portion of hatred from some - cryptocurrency blogs do have a certain conservative leaning - but I honestly don't give a fuck if someone does or doesn't support my 'lifestyle' or not. We live in an amazing world where it's accepted and celebrated by those that matter.
Sorry to disappoint for the lack of story, @holoz0r ;)
A rather refreshing story and honest sharing, if you ask me. Unfortunately, most people like drama, so it's those stories that go viral and get over dramatised leaving us thinking that these are the tragic battles of all in the community, when really all of us have varying degrees of sexuality, from fully heterosexual to fully homosexual. I'm grateful that society is slowly changing to accept that this range is all perfectly normal so that we can move away from people feeling the need to hide a part of themselves.
Well I didn't see that coming. Now I know you better, and that's what friendship is supposed to be.