In 2010, I volunteered to be a classroom facilitator with Success for Kids, an organization with a history of helping "problem" children turn their lives around.
Before letting me in a classroom, an SFK director taught me something that helped me not only with the kids at Carol City Elementary, but with people of all ages.
Here is what I learned.
How to deal with challenging kids (and adults):
There are four main categories below. Notice how the challenging person is making you feel, and then recognize what there real issue is - and how you can help them.
-1- Undue Attention
Is the issue of someone that makes you feel
Worried
Exhausted
Irritated
Annoyed
Sorry For
Imagine them wearing a t-shirt saying
“Involve me!”
You should
Re-enforce positive
Ignore Negative
-2- Misguided Power
Is the issue of someone that makes you feel
Angry
Challenged
Defeated
Imagine them wearing a t-shirt saying
“Let me help.”
“Give me choices.”
You should
Offer choices/opportunities
-3- Revenge
Is the issue of someone that makes you feel
Hurt
Disgusted
Disbelieving
Imagine them wearing a t-shirt saying
“Help me.”
“I’m hurting.”
You should
Ask what he/she needs.
Ask “How are you feeling?”
Tell them how you feel.
-4- Assumed inadequacy
Is the issue of someone that makes you feel
Despairing
Hopeless
Imagine them wearing a t-shirt saying
“Believe in me.”
“Don’t give up on me.”
You should
Tell them “You can do it!”
Cheerlead!
Don’t believe me, try it out for yourself. This really works, and can help you turn the most difficult situations into amazing success stories. Another tip worth mentioning: this also applies to you.
When you feel any of these emotions about yourself, check yourself. This can be a challenging process, but stick with it, it’s worth it!
Looks like You have an awesome experience being a volunteer @andrewmeyer !
Indo love being a volunteer too.
Thanks for sharing these, anything about dealing problem with kids and adults. Appreciate that.