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In a perfect world, helping others will get back to you in a good way and it pays back. But we are not in a perfect world, everyone is trying so good to manipulate others for their needs. This type of behavior is so dangerous as that person maybe just beside us all the time. Empathy is something we show to other when that person's situation is not well and showing care for them in ways we better fit. But, lack of reciprocating the same deed some may not be as generous as you are and will take advantage of you.
I had a friend who used to came to the same institute when I was preparing for a bank job. Gradually we became as a group with my other friends too. It was almost a six years friendship. In those days my dad passed away due to ill health and in those times he was right beside me for applying the benefits of my job funds. Some times he used to borrow money and when his time is right he returned them back. Four years back I got a job on compassionate grounds as my father is government servent. After that just in seven months, he asked me to take a loan for him to do silk saree business.
At that time we were like close friends and I didn't hesitate to apply for him on my income proof. It was a two lakh loan for four year period. After taking loan he used to send every month EMI on time and offcourse some EMI s are off time but, I made some adjustments during that time. After two years, it gradually become more off than usual. I once talked to him that my salary will not be enough to pay the bills of my own because of my mother's health issues I had to take two other loan. I told him my situation and he insist on that he will pay next month. I finally told him yhat if you miss this month EMI I will not call you and I will not make any request to pay the EMI s and it's my decision to give you that money and I will only bare the consequences because I trusted you.
After that he didn't send any EMI s and I didn't called him. I was very much upset about it as my total salary will go to EMI on account of my mother health and the situations I faced due to that extra EMI cannot be explained in words. I'm still paying for it and still it has seven months to complete that loan account. I came to experience that it's good to have empathy as a person, but don't show it on someone who don't deserve it. That one mistake made me beg to others for money which I am not good at asking others for money or rather just asking others on something. This type of friends are there for just your money.
In conclusion, be cautious about money matters with others and be a bad person not lending money to other at first only rather than becoming a bad person for asking your money from others after.
Some people don't just deserve good.
They paint good gestures bad, making the next person on line not to benefit any.
Sorry about your experience dear.
I believe you will be more careful next time.
I think you are correct, it made my experience with friends asking for money bad. But, I lend to some of my friends now and they are also helping me back in my financial situations.
Alright dear
Glad to hear that😊