First I lost my mother to cancer, so I know how it feels, and I wasn't separated from her more than a couple days for 15 years, not separated for 15 years from her.
Next, I wouldn't disrespect my father, or mother even if I never seen them for 15 years by attempting to shame others because they smoke cigarettes, and hardly would a mountain of positives do any justice to their memory after such a toss under the bus.
People deal with grief in different ways, there's nothing commandable about what you did here though, all these comments bandwagoning onto shaming people for smoking is what's really disgusting. Judging people for smoking cigarettes is not wholly your fault, as there's a propaganda machine shouting "shame for smoking" because "smoking causes luuuuuuuuuuung cancer"
http://www.journaloftheoretics.com/Editorials/Vol-1/e1-4.htm
http://www.freedom-of-choice.com/as3.htm
http://www.livescience.com/3093-smoking-myths-examined.html
http://yournewswire.com/smoking-doesnt-cause-cancer-black-lungs/
Japan and Greece have the highest numbers of adult cigarette smokers in the world, but the lowest incidence of lung cancer. In direct contrast to this, America, Australia, Russia, and some South Pacific island groups have the lowest numbers of adult cigarette smokers in the world, but the highest incidence of lung cancer. This is clue number-one in unraveling the absurd but entrenched western medical lie that “smoking causes lung cancer.”
Sorry for your loss too... I love my father... he really short lived... is telling my personal experience being unrespectful? I don't think so... I'm just telling the truth in this blog... this message is only an advice not to suffer like us by sharing it to you, I didn't share this to my father since then because we never lived together for long-time...
It's sad, at the end of the day this is only an advice... I do not force anyone to believe in me but my basis is what science and doctor and medical finding told us... don't learn the hard way, other people's experiences is enough for us to learn... my love for every one is forced me write this up...this is not a fairy tale story... it is real people with real life... thank you my friend for telling your point of view