Man is sinful by nature. He is meant to err. He is not perfect and even if he decides not to make any mistakes he ends up doing so. But many a times it just so happens that he ends up making mistakes in his life, which is normal, until or unless he denies doing so in the first place. Making mistakes is normal; it is a part of us. One can be clumsy at times and ends up making irrational decisions. The major problem in this picture is the fact that one does not own his mistakes which ends up being even more troublesome.
As Pat Paulsen admitted:
“I admit I do have some drawbacks and limitations as a candidate. Although I am a professional comedian, some of my critics maintain that this is not enough. I cannot deny that I stand before you untested and inexperienced - I only spent two years in television, never as a romantic lead or a song and dance man.”
Have Enough Guts to admit Mistakes:
If one denies doing wrong, he's not even truth to himself. Every time he would be approached he would deny everything and claim to do nothing wrong at all because he thinks his actions are driven by his guts and can never be wrong. Such people are highly disregarded in society as such acts are considered irresponsible and childish. It is morality that drives one towards the right. One should not try to escape his mistakes because even if he does try to do so, his mistakes and his utter denial to take responsibility would just end up haunting him for the rest of his life.
What gets in the Way?
But there is truly a problem when it comes to admitting mistakes. One might lose his job or even his scholarship; he might get scolded and arrested. The thought of such negative emotions prevents them from making up for their mistakes. They become cowards, with the fear that society might end up rejecting them. He fails to see the troubles caused by his mistakes. It brings about uneasiness and doubt. The other person begins to suspect the ‘criminal’ of not being an honest man. It never ends up well.
Like Tom Hanks said:
“I do not want to admit to the world that I can be a bad person. It is just that I don't want anyone to have false expectations. Moviemaking is a harsh, volatile business, and unless you can be ruthless, too, there's a good chance that you are going to disappear off the scene pretty quickly.”
Arrogance is not the Answer:
But on the other hand we consider a person, who had held their head high and had honestly admitted making the mistake, they would be regarded as being honest, they might end up sacrificing something, but their efforts never go wasted in the first place. The still walk the streets with their head held high. Since they are able to admit their own mistakes, they get selected for other opportunities as the person becomes responsible in the eyes of his peers.
As David Whyte pointed out:
“To admit regret is to understand that we are fallible - that there are powers beyond us. To admit regret is to lose control not only of a difficult past but of the very story we tell about our present. To admit sincere and abiding regret is one of our greatest but unspoken contemporary sins.”
Final Point:
In the end, one must not try to hide his mistakes, but by being rational and responsible one should be confident in admitting his mistakes otherwise this can become permanent TOXIC trait in his personality. One must not lose hope, but instead be hopeful that he would be able to receive new opportunities. And also by admitting his mistakes and not having to carry the burden of lying and deception in his heart anymore, he becomes relaxed and convinced that whatsoever he intended to be.
As Dale Turner wisely said:
“It is the highest form of self-respect to admit our errors and mistakes and make amends for them. To make a mistake is only an error in judgment, but to adhere to it when it is discovered shows infirmity of character.”
Not everyone can do this. Only strong people can admit
That is true, it just requires true realization.
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it's true @onealfa, but sometimes strong people take this little thing
if all men are like that, surely all people in this world will live in peace and peace
I agree with the because people will eventually start to really understand each other then
also society should consider the circumstances and situations which led them to do those mistakes and counsel from there on.. Many people aren't admitting their mistakes as they don't want themselves or their family to be branded bad by the society based on their mistakes! If this changes many people would be willing to and there by stay at peace with themselves.
A thought provoking post @bluemist! Cheers :-D
Definitely Community plays a strong role in that and people are always looking to maintain their image.
Thank you so much for the feedback :)
Very good post.. I was one that used to get in defense mode right away when I even only thought someone was pointing out a mistake or a wrong choice I had made.. But I have learned that it's not bad to make mistakes, but I try to be aware of the fact that I made them, so in the future it turned out to be a life lesson.
My best example for mistakes being a good thing is when I was having classes for my drivers licence .. Every week (10 weeks in a row) I made more mistakes than allowes to pass my exams.. Sometimes I even had 15 wrong answers.. I thought I could never in a million years pass .. But yet I did with only 4 mistakes.. Why? Because every single wrong answer in the classes I remembered, and I was not to be fooled again.. If I hadn't make these, I may have had many answers correct by just a simple gamble.. Now I knew what why something was the correct answer and I never forgot those..
Nowadays I can admit doing something wrong, think about it and try to turn it into somethinf positive.. Not always easy, though.. Sometimes it takes a while, but being aware of things is a very good start ..
Thanks for this post!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience and i agree, it does take a lot of courage to do that. If somehow we can muster that up in the beginning then it would be very fruitful in coming future
And it's healthy, because you can change something when you realise that is was your mistake...if you keep blamining everybody else all the time you will never be happy and have a bad perspective about the world; that wants to harm you or make you suffer.
Very said said, acceptance and understanding is the key.
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Very well stated! 😊
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Your GIF is saying it all correctly :)
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So do you believe that one's motivation is derived from self truth?
Would it have the same effect on your mind if you convinced yourself the false was the truth?
So, if you were to convince yourself you were a tidy person, although you hadn't been your whole life, eventually you would perpetuate that self image into something tangible.
It was not the truth, but by lying to yourself enough times, you were so convinced it was true that you willed it into action.
So, could it be argued that maybe lying to one's self may be the key to motivation and success, rather than being honest when being introspective?
or maybe my mind grabbed at one idea in this article and went off on its own, either way, great post!
oh there is a coincidence. Yesterday I also wrote about this subject hahahah. I have not visited your blog when I wrote my article
Very interesting coincidence indeed :)
how can we learn if we never make mistakes, and how can we guide others without the experience of mistakes? In fact we should get rid of the word 'mistake' altogether and just explain it as a learning experience :-)
Very well said, a very progressive approach indeed. Learn from your mistake and improvise
I like the improvised bit :-)
Thanks for sharing.