I am very sorry to hear about your friend. Most people fear death and it is hard to talk about. You are so right, we don't choose our death. I think that is what I like about existentialism though. It explores areas such as the topic of death. It helps others to search their own meaning in life and meaning in suffering, and come to the acceptance that we must live the best life we can since death is inevitable.
Thank you for your kind thoughts...My generation didn't have the comfort level or outlets I see my adult children having...and regardless...I think it is a good reminder...no matter what your age...and how "shit_ty"...life appears at any given moment...its borrowed time...
You're welcome! I hope you have a happy New Year!