Incels are a product of their society, a hypergamous society that obsesses over sex and stigmatizes anyone who isn't having or pursuing it. A society that tells men that their self-worth depends on female validation will eventually push some men to the brink of insanity trying to get the one thing they're told they need to be a man. Society is the problem; incels are the symptom. Fortunately, I was able to see past the illogical, irrational and unethical norms of society. I stopped caring about the made up concept of virginity, which has no scientific validity, and realized that I was worried about fitting in rather than finding things that genuinely made me happy. Incels don't need self-righteous pricks condemning them on their moral high horses. They need compassion, they need a direction in life, goals and hobbies, alternative sources of pleasure that raise their self-esteem without the risk of STDs, and most importantly a social structure that doesn't judge people for their lack of sexuality.
BTW Alek was Armenian, which is Caucasian but not white. White is partially based on European culture and Christianity; it's not a catch all term for light skinned people obviously since a lot of light skinned Asians are excluded from this category.