I ran across this poem. I am not sure who wrote it but is an excellent description of the process of letting go of codependency behavior!
Being Different People
When I feel my own
feelings and let you feel yours,
It does not necessarily mean that we will not get along.
You are not here to satisfy my needs.
What I did not get is not up to you to supply.
Your job is not to finish up my insides
Or to be hostage to the deficits in my past.
What you give me you give
Because at some deep level
Our needs speak to one another.
We call out in the silence
Of our unfinished selves,
To grow through on another's gifts and desires.
We cannot serve each other's
Inner movement,
if we allow the unconscious match between us to do its work!
This was in a book on Health Communications!
Very beautiful poem.
I read a piece somewhere that a relationship isn’t 100% i.e two people bringing in 50% each.
It’s 200% rather with each person bringing in their complete 100%.
Their individual thoughts, feelings, ideas etc.
I am you and you are you, but we still get along beautifully and are so good together.
good poem @corpdetoxbliss
it is not an easy thing to unite two different hearts.
Beautiful and nice poem.
Every line there has a deep meaning.
Hoping to read more from you ma'am.
Oh man, we are so gouda together!! Let's stuff our face with good cheese!
Good poem Ying
Thank you yang...But what if I wanted to be Yang then you have to be Ying! Ha
The way codependency was explained to me on a psychology level is with two hula hoops...You don't want both hula hoops merged together...The ideal relationship is with a part of the hula hoops over lapping the other. This way when you try to stand in the hula hoops you have one foot in your own hula hoop and one foot where both ying and yang have a foot in together! Thanks YANG! (:
In that case good poem Hoola. I mean you are already Booga, so all I need is a minor variation.
Thanks Hoop!
Words-very meaningful, to establish a peaceful and harmonious love @corpdetoxbliss
Thank you! I thought it was a great way to express the importance of being an individual! (:
Beautiful poem @corpdetoxbliss. Somehow reading it puts me in a trance. I would love to read more poems as such.
If only everyone read the words and understand, surely all the pairs will be harmonious da @@@corpdetoxbliss
You are very correct Afril! We all know Harmony in relationships isn't sustainable 100% of the time but as long as you find a way back to Harmony. Relationships in marriage and in friendship is a beautiful dance!
I personally believe this is the reason for many failed relationships.
Half filled people looking to find completion in someone else, making everything toxic. This is such a great piece with an amazing message. You are responsible for your own happiness, Nobody but you
You could romanticize it Chebacca! You know Chewie had a big heart. Codependency is just naming someones conditioning not blaming. Two people may be brought together for growth...You know there are two flames to every story or should I say Twin Flames...
I like the story of Twin Flames:A Twin Flame however is when that single cut, or that single soul begins getting bigger and bigger to the point where it needs to be cut itself into two different energies.
Once these two Twin Flame energies finally merge again, no matter how many cycles of reincarnation it takes, the cloth gets bigger and eventually forms new souls.
Think of it like a seed, spreading and creating more flowers as it germinates.
This energetic split does not happen to everyone. It only happens to those who have reached a certain frequency or level of consciousness.
In each “twin” there is a magnet that sort of attracts the two of you together (like attracts like), and you can meet at any time, at any stage of your life journey.
Wow i totally get it now thanks