Hey there,
In this post I would like to talk about love and healthy vs. unhealthy relationship .
What is true love and good relationship?
At the end you might even wander if you even been in a good one at the end, so beware :)
First of all lets take some cases from my personal and my friend's experience.
Cases For Warm Up
All the cases are cases of bad type of relationship and are examples of cases when you think you in love but actually you in deep scarcity.
Case 1: (true story)
A husband needs to go to New York from work for a week, and want 2 days for himself as vocation.
Wife reaction -
I don't want you to have fun without me.
Case 2: (true story)
I need to study this weekend for my exams, I don't want you to go out with your friends because I'm feeling I'm missing out (true story)
Case 3: (true story)
Hey, why are you looking at this woman? Stop It immediately.
Case 4: (true story)
Hey my sun, I'm so sad we didn't spent 6 days this week together and had only 5 :(
Case 5: (true story)
I don't care it is important for you to play with your friends today, I want you to stay with me.
What kind of love or relationship this cases demonstrate?
Well a not healthy one :)
What Is True Love And Good Relationship?
If you want a short answer, it would be -
When you in love not take but to give and empower, and find someone who is there for the same reason.
In Depth
It Starts from Loving Yourself
The problem with many relationship, is the place they coming from.
If you sitting home and feel like it isn't fun to be with yourself, you are not ready for true love.
To give true love you first need to love and respect yourself.
You should be able to have fun without the need in the other half.
A woman/man should be the cherry on your amazing piece of cake life :)
Find Someone Who Is There Not Out Of Scarcity
When you are there for the right reason, it doesn't mean she/he are there for the right reason, so be careful to choose someone that is ready as well for true love and out of this world relationship.
Empower The Other Half
Jealousy, neediness from one of the parts to be all the time with other part, this need to own each other...
Is the bad type of love.
You need to empower and encourage each other to go and rock it, crash it, own it, win it, have fun.
Even if it means that the other half will have more fun this time than you do (for example like New York case).
When it is true love, you want your partner to have us much fun as possible, no matter if you now having fun or not.
Of course the fun shouldn't come at your price, you don't need to go to a movie you don't like.
Those sacrifice are not wanted, she/he has friends to go with.
But ultimately you should really want the best for the partner.
Don't Stop Developing Yourself
The moment or your life is only the other half, it means you don't develop yourself.
It is especially bad for men, because women might lose interest in such man, subconsciously.
Summary
So if I want to do a quick recap.
The path to good relationship and true love starts from within.
You should first enjoy the company of yourself.
The search for love shouldn't be from scarcity to find someone that will save you from your miserable life.
You should find someone that is there to give, not to leech your energy and think about his own fun all the time.
Your partner should empower you going after your dreams and having the most amazing life possible.
A good partner will amplify the good in you and make you crash it.
Thus it is extremely important not to fall to the wrong hands ;)
Wish you to find a true love :)
Love you my friends!
In my opinion, true love is when you kill your ego, when you respect the opinion of your loved one and when you sacrifice and compromise for the relationship, but it should be two-sided. If the other partner is not putting efforts in the relationship, move on; end the relationship.