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At that time before the entrance examination, the face of roommate Xiao K was very anxious. At that time, I often saw her anxiously and forcefully write something on a few pieces of white paper, frowning tightly, and looking depressed.
After a while, she put the pen down, raised her hand and rubbed her eyes, then nervously picked up the phone and brushed the tender film.
For a couple of nights, I watched her in this cycle of anxiety and tension. At this time, often want to go forward to talk with her a few words, but then think, I in her tense time to talk to her, it is likely to disrupt her plans, and then give up.
I usually get up early, do not like to set the alarm clock, may have formed a biological clock, usually at 06:30 will wake up naturally. Those days, little K got up much later than ever, because the previous night spent too much time on the play. Sitting up and pressing the buzzing alarm clock, she took a few deep breaths.
"Sleeping a little longer is going to be much better. "Little K asked me as I was drinking water," you say? "
"Yes, it's important to have a good rest. "I followed her words with a few painless answers.
I looked up and saw her look a little dodging and nervous, wondering how to pick her up. Should it be comforting to hear in a few words, or break the heart in her words, said bluntly, "in fact, I don't think you have worked hard enough." "
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Preparation for the exam during the small K, in fact has rarely taken the initiative to join our chat. We can especially understand this special period of her, also know that she is uneasiness of the enemy, more aware that she will often seek comfort because of her guilty heart.
But with her comfort many times, I always feel like a "fake good person", such consolation seems to her not very good.
I feel the same way I feel tired, guilty and comforting under pressure. Efforts and results of the unequal, the most easily depressed and powerless. In this case, occasional evasion and relaxation are inevitable, especially in the face of an uncertain future and an uncontrollable outcome. This, however, must not be the reason for ever slacking off.
Once, roommate M looked at Kat, who was full of guilt, and finally "cruel" said to her: "I think sometimes you love to give yourself excuses, say white spots, is very good at self-comfort and seek comfort." "for example, your stress isn't so great that you need to watch a movie all night to ease it, and you don't really relax completely when you watch a movie, but you take up a lot of study and rest time. What we see more is your distraction.
The reason for these unflattering "accusations" is that we still sincerely hope that the bad faith of this time will allow her to walk a few more steps than others in the remaining time.
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Perhaps, you have really worked hard, but do you really understand the comfort of others to you?
There are some comforts that you don't understand, so they become a constraint that you can't see, allowing you to ignore your shortcomings and be content with the current situation, which is a little bad.
If you fail to pass CET 4 / 6 for the first time, others will say, "by your English level, your luck this time is too bad." will you close the test paper in previous years and not do it?
If you are a person with less than ideal grades, others say to you, "the person who is not good at reading is the material for the boss, and the students who are the bottom of the class are often the ones who make the most money later", do you believe it at this time?
If you are a little overweight, people say to you, "Don't lose weight, you are such a fat physique," and you believe it and start to eat?
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Everyone is "comforting" you, but you don't understand the meaning behind the comfort. You learn, more with these comforts for their own not to work hard on a layer of insurance.
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What we need to pay attention to is not only the casual comfort of others saying "you've already done well", but also the need to be wary of yourself, who is content with "I've worked hard."
"I spend almost 1/3 hours a day in the library; I keep going to work when I have a cold and fever, and I keep going to work for my grades."-it seems like a lot of work, but if the method is not right and the efficiency is not high, Or perfunctory, do not reach the basic goal, you just moved yourself?
A friend who wants to take an examination of grind says, before the exam approaches, I still can't help playing mobile phone all the time, often take the time to think of other. I asked her, what do you think of your abilities? She answered in eight words: "there is more to it than there is more to it than there is to it. "
Now she, is neither willing to fall, but also a little reluctant to forge ahead. Sometimes see than their lazy roommates, will not consciously also lazy for a while, always feel that they are trying, in fact, in the heart has been saying, you are lying to others.
It is an awkward position to compare with others. However, we should be more aware of the "more than the gap", more to the people in front of you, rather than the joy of "more than the bottom."
It is difficult to keep awake in all kinds of comforts. Many people have to experience one fall after another and climb up again and again, relying on intermittent experience summary, in order to know later in the body and mind to every corner of the brain, difficult to return to see the nature of comfort under the vigilance.
In fact, your greatest enemy is the relaxation of their own. I hope you understand this earlier and work hard.
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