My hometown has a relative, according to the generation division, I also call him uncle. Uncle's son wanted to get married and was going to buy his son a wedding house in the city, so he went around and borrowed money.
Uncle is a bully, in order to raise a down payment to buy a house, the attitude of borrowing money is very strong and insolent. By name, any relative must lend him as much money as if the whole world owed him.
Some relatives do not have so much money at home, but also because of the meaning of face, borrow less uncle also do not do, back to say some inordinate sarcasm.
Some relatives, although a little bit of edge, but eight lives have nothing to do with each other, he still came to the door to borrow money, the result of a touch of dust. Then he went about telling people how they didn't do justice.
The relative is not a fuel-saving lamp. He can't chew his tongue. Then, on the face of the drum, clatter: "you have in front of me what feelings?" Did you help me when I was most in need of help? "
Uncle was very unfamiliar with the whole family. Through so many years of dealing with people, he was only allowed to take advantage of other people's costs, and he was not allowed to take advantage of him. No matter how much help others help him, he will not be grateful. Relatives and friends who had been with him all knew his conduct, and at last they gradually walked away from him.
Because of a craft, the first half of the table uncle life is still quite beautiful. However, the living conditions became worse and worse. The riches' experience, information and resources were insulated from him. Since then, he has been living in complaining of jealousy, complaining that this person is mean to him, and that person is not humane. In short, everyone owes him and is ungrateful. And he lived a great deal of his life, but he never reflected on how his life before doing things is not authentic.
A person who does not understand introspection will always look at other people's faults, do not understand gratitude, and will live in pain all his life.
A few days ago, a good friend called me and said he quit again.
My best friend changed several jobs in three years, which is not normal. At first it was because she felt stressed at work and how weird her boss was, so I comforted her. Later, I found that more and more wrong, every job she quit the reason, unexpectedly because of encounter strange boss, all because of the contradiction of work.
My judgment is that there is a problem with her personal attitude and ability to work. So, I told her a little seriously: "have you ever reflected on your personal reasons for this state of work over the last few years?" Have you ever thought about what's wrong with you? "
. It is the fault of other colleagues, but it is not their own fault.
It is difficult for such a person to have too great a future, for when she does not know how to reflect on her shortcomings, those shortcomings will always exist, and personal growth will only stand still.
There is a saying: those who do not learn from failure are far from success.
Knowing that introspection is a kind of wisdom. People who do not know how to reflect, never sum up experience, often fall from one pit to another on the way of life.
At all times and in all over the world, all those who have made achievements pay great attention to self-reflection and self-examination of their own hearts. Zengzi said, "do I think of myself three times a day?. Are you unfaithful to what you are trying to do?" Make friends but don't believe them? Is it not customary? "
Xian Junming master is pay more attention to their own self-cultivation, Li Shimin said: copper as a mirror, can complete the crown; to man as a mirror, can be according to gain or loss.
Introspection is a mirror that clearly reflects our mistakes and gives us a chance to correct them.
Many psychologists believe that the premise of improving the mental model requires introspection and courage, that is, to objectively and fairly understand themselves and analyze themselves with no feelings.
The ancients said: "the villain is not wrong, the gentleman often over." "it means that the villain always feels that he is not wrong, that it is someone else who is wrong, while the gentleman often reflects on his own fault."
A person who does not know how to reflect on himself is hard to be grateful. You give him a silver mountain, and he thinks you owe him a golden hill.
A person who does not understand introspection is always complaining. In his eyes, the fault is everyone else's, in fact, the biggest problem is himself.
A person who does not understand introspection, does not understand the transposition thinking, always lives in the conceited extreme, the self-righteous world.
A person who does not understand introspection, always in the same place. The long road to life, he has only experience, not experience.
Introspection can help us improve our personality, sum up our lessons, thank others, and learn to stop losing in the wrong way.
And a person who does not understand introspection is destined to be a person without a future.