There is scarcely any passion without struggle.
― Albert Camus
Feliz (my cat) is a man after my own heart. When I got him from the shelter, it was quite hard to win his trust. He was awkward and fearful. That time, I could have just bought a posh cat like a Chinchilla White Persian but I am just not attracted to this type. I am not saying that this beautiful cat is too superficial for me but a creature with a past seems more interesting. I don't want an indoor cat that will just sleep and get obese due to fancy cat foods. I want a feral cat who does not need me. A passionate wildcat.
Even though I feed Feliz with cat food, he still likes to incessantly hunt and kill. That is his passion. When my cat is happily back from hunting, he will not only reward me with mouse spleens and bird feathers, he will also shower me with love and attention. It is not safe to leave my cat out there to go hunting in the wild, but I trust him enough that he will come back. If he doesn't, I will understand. I will only cherish the good times we have together.
Feliz is a cat with a troubled past but the most important thing is that now he is happy. He is a survivor. The most diabolic cat who could adapt to any type of environment anywhere you put him in this world - with or without comfort. I was playfully annoying him one time but he almost buried his fangs deep into my skin. Just because he is nice does not mean he will let his master walk all over him. The alpha male knows what he wants. He is strong and secured. He is not sitting pretty demanding respect. And for that I respect him. He is the most passionate and beautiful cat in the neighborhood.
There's a lesson to be learned from Feliz, the importance of having something to live for and not base your happiness solely on humans.
My cat is risking his life out there, willing to die while doing what he loves. God knows what the wild cats are doing - hunting bugs, mating or scavenging for some food scraps. I also noticed that other people find Feliz cute. Sometimes I get worried that he will be taken away from me but I try to convince myself that I love him for his freedom. And for that, he loves me back. Our relationship is based on freedom.
I think this is what most women, and some men too, around here lack. I observe that the reason they can be quite jealous, insecure, and demanding is due to their lack of passion. They expect more time to be spent with them. People love to spend more time with passionate people. Passion is what makes a person attractive. But at what point this passion will be discovered?
Some years ago, before I decided to travel, I was experiencing this really sad and messy breakup. When you hit rock bottom, the only way to survive is to go up. That time, my friend came over to my place and told me something that I would never forget - You know why are you suffering right now? It's because you don't have any hobbies. Activities that have nothing to do with a man.
I mean my work was not a hobby and sure my friend was right. That was the point when I started doing things that I really love. Things that I can do with or without people. I felt omnipotent. It's like realizing that someone leaving or you're leaving behind would no longer be a life threat because you have other things that will keep you sane. You will survive and be just as happy as my cat.
The alpha males are out there hunting and spending time with other males. They like to do other things like building something, doing sports, playing music, hanging out in the garage, or fixing broken stuff. The alpha male likes to be free to do their own thing so they could come back ready to give love and attention. Being in control of their own lives is what makes them powerful. While women, though not all, tend to be emotional because they demand and expect things that they lack. Passion and independence can make a person (man or woman) more beautiful. Freedom does not mean that you look for more partners or that you break up with your significant other. It only means being free to pursue your passion whatever it takes. There should be something else that keeps you alive. A strong purpose. A person in your life is just there to make you happier not complete you.
Passion does not come without struggle. Art, music, architecture, and all the great things have been created if it weren't for loneliness, anger, love, hate and other painful feelings. Nikola Tesla even quoted that not many great inventions have been made by married men. Having something to devote your life for would be worth it in the end. Just treat it as a bonus if there's someone who could celebrate and share the joy with you. Perhaps a passionate wildcat too.
My husband of 36 years recently passed away. We were just beginning to understand this concept of freedom that you have laid out in this post. Both men and women need freedom and support to pursue their personal passions within a relationship. Just wished it didn’t take us so long to get there and that we had more time to develop and enjoy that freedom.
I'm really sorry to hear that...
It is really hard to start over... but it's never too late to make the change...
very true, such "passion" almost becomes contagious, inspiring others not only to find their own passion, but to surround themselves with more of "you".
I've said this many times over the years. It's amazing how time flies when you surround yourself in hobbies that inspire you. It also seems to instill a greater sense of confidence and self-worth as well.
as for this, I simply felt passionately compelled to throw it in...! 😀
Hobbies / Activities /Passion can really boost one's confidence and self-worth. The way to gaining self-respect and freedom.
Thanks for the comment! I really love that cat hehe.
This was a very beautiful story! You are a good writer! I love cats too. 5 months ago we decided to take a cat, Picasso! :)..It's amazing how much a cat can give! If you wanna know how Picasso looks, take a look on my channel. I have a couple of blogs about her!
Thanks!, Ok, I will check Picasso!
beautiful post once again @diabolika yes life teach you a lot of things. Freedom is the right of all people. in my opinion freedom is to enjoy your life and don't relate your happiness with other person or materialistic things. It doesn't mean don't care people do care people but keep your happiness on priority. keep sharing
I agree with you. Thank you!
An interesting treatise on love, passion, and freedom, @diabilika. Your cat, Feliz, is merely a metaphor...
Imagine if we loved humans in the same way? Love them simply to love them, with nothing expected in return, but cherished when something is offered back... When we try to keep them for ourselves by holding them close, inevitably, we snuff out the very flame that we are enamored with.
Feliz leaves to hunt, live, and experience life because he has to. He returns to you because he wants to. Is there anything more beautiful and real than that??
Yes, nothing is more beautiful than accepting my cat's freedom. It hurts sometimes because I am not used to it....
very well description about your cat Fielz and also your symbolizing about human freedom just like your cat has freedom.i agree with you love is not to control every moment of anything.love is basically let them free for his choice and enjoy those moments when he comes back to you with his on desire.
Thanks for the insight!
LOL
I love your writing start with how you look after your cat an taking us on a journey of deep relationships brilliant.
And yes being single I have come to realise I have not been with people similar enough to me hence the previous relationships failing. But also I too realise I need to go out there and do things on my own and enjoy MY life and come back and share the experience with my significant other (when I find her), yes not doing everything together but having individual hobbies makes so much sense, just didn't work out that way hence the break down, thanks! Cracking post very thought provoking !
Thanks! Animals can teach us many lessons!
It is important that we have individual hobbies, separate activities and another set of friends too, aside from our partners' friends.
Yet indeed. And separate friends too spot on! 💯🐒
Cute cat
Excelent ,Good post...
i like this.
Good post