All this says to me is that they have not been dealt with, you have not healed in those areas of yourself or your life and those issues will continue to resurface for as long as you choose to disregard them or pack them away…
These days I have actually been fortunate enough to have such company that I do not even need to explain such things... it has just been naturally "perceived" and then simply dealt with in the most positive way which therefore eradicates the negative and brings about a much more positive "me" at the end of it all... :)
I 'get it'. Seen many different facets of the psyche. You ever need to chat, lemme know.
Much love from the Dirty Dirty