You bring up some great points. Constantly focusing just on the bad/harmful stuff not only makes us perpetually depressed and vulnerable but it also makes us feel incomplete and draws even more negativity our way. Somehow we need to strike a balance between the Boomer's attitude of avoidance and the current fashion of adopting the victimhood mentality.
It's funny, a few paragraphs into reading this I was imagining the worst relationship I ever had. It was almost 35 years ago but I have never given much thought to the good times. She was the first woman I ever lived with, she was older and more sophisticated. We met in college and, in hindsight there were SO many red flags. She loved to argue, she never seemed satisfied with much of anything. I, honestly, think she asked me to move in with her just so I would pay half the rent. Lol. We had good times though. In many ways she introduced me to what it was like to truly be an adult. I was so thoroughly unprepared. I'll never forget how good I slept the night after we broke up and I moved out. I hadn't realized how stressed out I was living with her.
Priceless!!!
Priceless!!!